Man, how life can change. It still blows my mind to think where I was just a few short years ago and where I am today. I’ve been thinking a lot about my past and all the things I could have done differently and there a few things that really stick out in my mind.
I realize just how much time I spent wishing, wanting, and hoping that my life would somehow miraculously become great. After all the years of struggling financially, emotionally, and personally, I just needed a break I told myself.
I felt like I was owed something by the Universe or whatever because of all the sacrifices I had made. I walked around with a false sense of entitlement like I deserved to be happy, successful, and wealthy.
Bullshit. Bullshit. Bullshit.
I’ve seen this many times in many different people and it comes in all forms. Maybe it shows it’s ugly head in the form of a lazy employee who thinks he deserves a raise and is unwilling to work hard until he gets what’s owed.
Or maybe it comes in the form of an estranged and distant husband who uses passive aggressiveness to feel superior or more in control of his life.
I know because these were both me.
The Land Of Entitlement
This is the not-so happy little place I called home for many years and looking back, it was an incredible waste of time. All the years I spent waiting for something to come to me could have been spent learning, creating, or bettering myself. Instead I chose to play the victim card and assume that life would deliver up a nice, juicy dose of success just because I thought I had put my time in and it was due.
So fucking wrong.
The irony is that I look at people today; people who I think are walking around with a sense of entitlement, and look down on them. “Lazy fucking bastards” I think. And it’s true. They are lazy. But so was I.
We are not owed one God damn thing. We must earn everything we have and everything we are.
For those of you who believe in the principles behind the book/movie The Secret, I have news for you; it ain’t gonna happen. Well, not without a shit ton of hard work and discipline to get you where you want to go.
Thinking that good things will happen on your life just because you really, really want them is not the right way to look at life. In my opinion, anyway.
So What Does Work?
Now I’m all for having a positive mental attitude and believing that good things will happen. Good things do seem to happen when we believe they will and much of that is just our outlook on things. We can’t control the events in our lives but we can control how we view those events.
If you’re reading this, there is a good chance that your life sucks in some capacity. Most likely it’s your soul crushing 9-5 job, but it could be any number of shitty things.
Well I’m here to tell you that the only way out is by taking massive fucking action and doing it right now.
You can be like I was and want and wish for things to change or you can make the decision to work for change. I started this blog in 2010 and over the years have seen the same story played out in so many different lives. It breaks my heart to read the things I’ve read and want desperately to grab each one of you and shake you and scream “wake the fuck up”!!
Your life is speeding by and you are no closer to being where you want in life than you were 5 years ago. You are now just older, fatter, balder, and more tired. It’s not going to get any easier, I promise you.
Now is your time to make it happen.
I’m telling you this not out of anger, but rather because I care. It might sound like I’m pissed off, but I only want you to take an honest look at yourself and what you want in life and then go after it with everything you’ve got.
If I was the same self serving douchebag I was 10 years ago, I wouldn’t be writing this right now. But I have changed.
Right now, I am following my passion, living on my terms, and am happier than I have been in over a decade. And it’s only because I decided to stop waiting for life to hook me up and I went after it.
Believe me, if you know my story then you know I was deep in the shit and if I can make a complete life change, you can too.
I’m here to help, so leave a comment or email me to let me know what I can do to get you closer to what you want.