Calling Bullshit On Myself
Dec

In September, Penelope Trunk called bullshit on me. In our interview, she called me out on a number of issues such as having no goals, avoiding reality, and blogging for the wrong reasons.
In November, Marcus Sheridan called bullshit on me for being all talk and no action and for being way too caught up in my head.
Since that time, I have publicly committed to the following actions:
- Writing and releasing my first eBook
- Getting in touch with my faith and serving God
- Serving my wife
- Forgiving and apologizing to my brother, whom I haven’t spoken to in 6 years
- Serving my boss
- Creating clear, specific, and actionable goals
And here’s what I’ve done:
- Read the shit out of a dozen books and applied exactly nothing
- Thought about all the things I want and need to do
- Dragged my feet with any and all things that resemble forward moving action
- Thought some more about what I want to do
- Shut down emotionally (although I do have a legitimate excuse….of course)
Since October, I have been writing all about taking action, creating great things, building businesses, and yet I’ve managed to do none of these things. For two and a half months I’ve been spouting off about being up to “big” things and getting stuff done. And the sad thing is that in my head, I was. But the hard truth is that I haven’t accomplished much more than the bare minimum I needed to get by.
I can’t and won’t blame you if you stop reading now and write me off as being full of shit.
Because I AM full of shit.
I can talk (write) like I have the world by the balls, but in all reality, it’s me who is being held by them. It’s one thing when your readers start calling you out on empty commitments, but when you have to write a post about yourself being full of shit, you know there’s a problem.
In my post, At The Crossroads, I wrote “What does all this mean? Nothing if I continue what I’ve been doing. But that’s not going to happen”, in regards to the “epiphany” I had after the Penelope interview.
But guess what, that did happen. I have done almost nothing in terms of actionable progress on this blog and in my life.
In looking at my last 8 posts, it’s nothing but talk which I have yet to back up. I can see how people are growing tired and frustrated with my song and dance. I am too!
The King of Wishful Thinking
Why have I done nothing? Fear, laziness, wishful thinking, procrastination, external influences, and a hundred other things that are just another way of avoiding action.
In my head, I am working towards things, thinking of all the great things that will come, and planning a brighter future. But it’s all in my head. It means nothing until I do something, even something very small.
One small step per day is all I need to start….
My 2012 Project
My last few posts have mentioned my “Big” project that I plan to launch on January 2. As exciting as it was for me a month ago, the fear of the “A” word is sucking me back into the world of doing nothingness.
My self fulfilling prophecy of being average is rearing its ugly head in the face of my bold new venture and my natural reaction is to withdraw and retreat into my comfort zone.
And to be very honest, I almost scrapped the whole project yesterday. I almost threw in the proverbial towel knowing full well that it would almost certainly spell the end of this blog. My credibility would be all but gone and the respect I’ve built, tarnished irreparably.
The 2 Calls That Saved This Blog
When I woke up yesterday, I was 50% sure I was going to abandon my project and hope for the best. But before I could make such a drastic decision, I called two friend who have been incredibly supportive, although in much different fashions.
My first call was to Danny Iny, who has been helping/coaching me for a few months now and has a significant role of my upcoming project. This man is all action and is all over the Internet. If you Googled “Chilean goat herders” he would probably have a guest post about it! I shared my concerns and he was supportive in whatever decision I made, but also let me know that I would be throwing away a very big opportunity should I choose to terminate my project.
My second call was to my friend Marcus Sheridan, who has been very straight forward with me since we met. His words were much less pleasant to hear as he basically told me that nobody, including him, gives a shit (my word) about what I’m doing here anymore because I’m all talk and no action. And until I actually do something, nobody will care.
It’s a hard thing to hear, but I needed it. He let me know that there was nothing further he could tell me because I already knew it all. I just had to act on it. And unless my posts started with “I did xyz today“, nobody is going to care.
Marcus told me straight up that he has lost interest in reading my blog because it’s all the same talk. He even went so far as to tell me that I would not take any action after our call.
This wasn’t a challenge nor was it intended to motivate me. It was just his version of truth based on my results. I realized that I don’t need to prove anything to him or to anyone else, it’s about proving it to myself.
So I had to decide what to do…
And I made my choice. And I chose action.
Action
Instead of thinking about all the things I want to do and then writing about them again, I just did one. I did the one that I least wanted to do and that was call my estranged brother in Arizona. We had a falling out 6 years ago which almost came to blows one winter night in New Hampshire and we haven’t spoken since.
He has never met his two nieces. He has never even spoken to them. It’s really sad and it’s my fault. I could have called him sooner. I could have made an effort. I could have forgiven him. But I didn’t.
So I called him last night. And as ready as I was to talk with him and apologize for all the years I was a lousy brother, he didn’t answer.
Maybe he wasn’t ready to talk with me. Maybe he has no interest in speaking to me. Or maybe he was just out. In any case, I look forward to sharing our conversation when it happens.
Today
The first thing I did this morning was get in touch with my web designer to discuss all the changes I want made to my blog prior to my January 2 launch. And there are quite a few. Action.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this, unless you’re just going to tell me that I’m being too hard on myself. Because I’m not.
Here’s to action in 2012…

John Falchetto
Hi Steve,
The truth is we are all full of shit.
We all fight our demons and want to stop the fight.
We all fear like we should accomplish more and that what we have achieved isn’t that great.
What is your 2012 project?
Sharing it and make yourself accountable to your community, this will go a long way to making sure it happens.
You might bomb and it might not even be ready on time, but as long as you keep fighting you aren’t full of shit in my book.
Steve
John,
Well said. It’s true that we all have our own versions of bs we tell ourselves. Everyone will handle it differently, but for me it’s become a way of life. I lie to myself constantly and fool myself into thinking I am making progress. Marcus, as always, provided a much needed slap in the face. He also made a keen observation in that I am not internally motivated but rather continue to look to others for it.
I can’t disagree with him and understand that I will never reach the level of happiness or success in life if I can’t motivate myself. And for the right reasons! Clearly, I need to work on my “why”…
Paige | Simple Mindfulness
Working on your “why” is still being extrinsically motivated. I’ve seen some huge “why’s” out there followed by complete lack of action.
My advice is to work on your “who.” Who are you? What kind of person do you see yourself as? Your actions will follow this before they’ll ever follow a why. If your why was to make enough money to get your family and yourself out of poverty but you subconsciously saw yourself as a loser, incapable of making more than minumum wage, you would never get anywhere. You would make great plans and never take action or sabatage any planned actions. Sound familiar?
I almost didn’t make it to the end of the post because 98% of it was the SOS. I’m glad I did and am very glad you have taken those baby steps. Keep rollin’!
Steve
Oh Paige,
I was half afraid to read your comment…
This is a very interesting way of looking at things. A case could also be made for a strong “why”, but I do see your point. I won’t lie, many years of a difficult marriage have taken their toll on me and my confidence and self esteem. I rarely feel like the powerhouse I once was but I know I need to get back to that state of mind where I fee like I can accomplish anything.
And yes, it did take me 1,000 words to get to the actual action in this post. Thanks for sticking around!
Dave Ursillo
Hey Steve,
I agree with what John has said here. Don’t worry, we’re all full of shit. This is a part of our human condition. Suffering is a part of it: in our heads, in our relationships, in our endeavors.
Announce what your project is. Announce the why behind it- positively (who you want it to help and why), and not negatively (a product of negative circumstances in your life/the lives of the people you’re wanting to help).
I think working with your designer is good too– you need to change the look and feel of this blog into being less about “Ending the Grind” (even if the blog title stays the same) and more about the positive, constructive purpose behind the title. Lose the picture of the sad moping dude behind a computer, and replace it with someone celebrating.
Also, on a personal level, you’ll be very benefited from looking at this blog/future projects as being less about you, your problems and life’s circumstances and more about everyone else. Focus upon what you’re doing as the means to genuinely help people.
The good part is, the more you help others, the more you benefit personally. The more you benefit personally, the more others in your life will reap it.
Rock on, and take the leap brother.
Dave
Steve
Dave,
I will be sharing the details of my project in next weeks post and will be turning “Ending The Grind” into a positive versus a negative.
It’s funny you mention the header photo because that’s part of “rebranding” process. 2012 will be a year for positive change and my blog needs to reflect that.
The main goal of my project is not only to help myself become a happier person but to also help others by showing them what is possible. I have gotten caught up in me, me, me mode and will be focusing more outward in the future. And I know very well that by helping others first, I will benefit in turn. You are a great example of this and have shown it over and over in your actions…
Frank Dickinson
Steve,
From one fellow struggler to another – rock it brother – just shut up and rock it!
I replied here because I was blown away by Dave’s comment – the cool part being that if you were working with a blog and or social media consultant, Dave’s words would have set you back a pretty penny.
From his graciousness – you scored!
Another reason i love being a part of the blogging community.
Again, Rock it brother – you have good shit inside of you that the worlds needs to see, experience and enjoy.
FRank
Steve
I like it Frank! Shut up and do it! Exactly what I have to do.
Dave is a great guy and is all about action. He is doing great things and his results speak volumes. Being a part of the online world is one of the main reasons I love this so much. There are so many awesome people and so many willing to help each other. Coming from a world of corporate finance where people undermine, lie, and cheat to succeed, the blogosphere is like an insulated bubble that shields me from all that crap..
Theo
You and I are far more similar than I care to admit. Not that there’s anything wrong with you, it’s the fact that I don’t want to admit to my own inaction.
Good on you for calling your brother. It’s one step. However, I’d like to remind you of other actions you’ve already taken. There is this blog. It has content. You have obtained blog commentary. You have put thought into your future. All is not lost. My only advice is to eat the elephant one bite at a time. You’ve already started gnawing…
Steve
Theo,
I admire your honesty and owning up to your lack of action. Hopefully that will change. I know calling my brother is just one small step and there will be hundreds more steps that follow. And while I have put a tremendous amount of effort into this blog, I have avoided the difficult things. My project for example requires a massive amount of action and I’m scared of being accountable for it all.
But that’s where the growth lies….
Abby
I also agree that we’re all full of bullshit at times, and I am clearly no exception. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve wanted to pull the plug on my blog, my book, my job, etc. simply because I felt simultaneously overwhelmed with what I “should” do and underwhelmed with what I had actually done. The solution? Take one step, even if it’s tiny, and go from there.
There are so many times I find myself making lists of things I need to do, even just household chores or a phone call, instead of using that time to just freaking get them done. Planning is great, but a plan without action is completely ineffective.
So I take it one step at a time. Sometimes that step is backwards, admittedly, but I always have the option to move forward. So do you.
Steve
Hi Abby,
From our past conversations, I know you have dealt with many of the issues I have and I love the fact that you went for it anyway! It’s awesome that you got your book done and published (just got my copy yesterday). I’ve never been a “one small step at a time” person and prefer all or nothing. And in many cases, it’s nothing..
I am so guilty of overplanning and underdoing (not words I know)..My to do list is a joke-it’s got like 40 things on it and I just keep adding shit. I don’t even do any of the things on there…ridiculous..
Thanks for the reminder here though….now just to put it into practice 🙂
Financial Samurai
That’s cool you called your bro though. Hope you left a message?
Good luck for action! And don’t worry if you don’t do anything. It just means you are happy enough with where you are now and you don’t need to do anything, otherwise you would do it.
All is peace.
Sam
Steve
Sam,
I did leave a message 🙂
It was kind of a weird thing, hearing my own brothers voice for the first time in so long…
As far as action is concerned, I am far from happy where I am. My not taking action is unrelated to being content and rather totally related to being paralyzed with fear. I’m not quite at a point in my life where things are so bad that I have to take action and that’s the worst place to be…
Tom Ewer
Here are my thoughts Steve – you’re still only one step away from huge progress, despite all the procrastination.
It sounds like Marcus was harsh but fair. I have to admit – I tend to approach each of your new posts in the hope that you’re going to have demonstrated a massive leap forward, and it hasn’t come. It leaves me extremely disappointed.
But you can fix all of that with this new project of yours. I honestly believe that you have the ability and support to make it happen.
So get it done!
Steve
Tom,
I like to think I am close to something huge here and that’s the fear. What if I am? What if this thing blows up and people know my name? That’s my fear and one of the main things holding me back from moving forward. But if I don’t do this now, with all the momentum, support, and interest I have, I will be wasting quite possibly one of the biggest opportunities in my life.
I’m looking forward to working with you on this project and I think great things will come from it.
Tom Ewer
You don’t need me to tell you that what ifs can stop you from doing anything worthwhile in life – I’ve seen you say it plenty of times in your posts.
I’m looking forward to it too – 2012 is our year!
John Garrett
Steve, I went through many of the same things. It’s uncanny because I had a falling out with my brother too years ago.
In recent years I mellowed out and decided to let people be who they are. Now we’re back to helping each other out where we can and communicating at least once or twice a week.
Man I’m glad you took that action. It feels good to do it even if it doesn’t work out. Maybe you should just email him once or twice a month to let him now what you’re up to and ease him into picking up the relationship.
I can’t wait until your new venture launches. I hope you throw in 200% and kick some serious ass. I truly believe we can accomplish great things if we’re willing to risk and work for it.
All the best, man!
Steve
John,
Let people be who they are-I like that. I’ve become very judgmental over the years and that’s one of my many bad habits. Once I can sincerely apologize to my brother for being a bad brother, I will be able to move past this whole thing. And I’d love to be more involved with him and maybe even fly my girls out there to meet him!
This project may or may not be met with interest, but I’m going for it all the way regardless. It’s going to be a great learning experience and I honestly believe it has the power to change lives…
Thanks my man!
John Gizowski
Hey Steve,
Have you ever been part of a mastermind group? My biggest challenge with working for myself has been being accountable to MYSELF. Big, Big challenge for me and sounds like one for you as well. Anyway, I’ve decided I needed to find or form one for 2012? It seems like it’s a common denominator for people with success. Let me know your thoughts.
Steve
John,
I actually started a mastermind group in January. I got 8 people involved and for a while it was beneficial. Unfortunately I wasn’t very good at leading this group and it got a bit disorganized and lost its effectiveness.
My upcoming project will include something similar only much more personal and in depth. Being held accountable to your peers is far more effective that trying to do it all ourselves.
I would tell you to go for it as I think it can only serve to help you meet your goals. If you want the outline I used, let me know. It actually came from someone in Pat Flynn’s mastermind group and was very helpful..
Johnny
Finally…!
I’m glad you stopped talking and you started doing.
Now it’s my turn to do the same.
Steve
I know, Johnny! Keep me posted on what you are doing to take action
Johnny
I took a look at myself and what I’ve done in 2011. Here are my observations:
1. I spend time reading about internet marketing than actually doing it (it’s been two years now). Commitment for 2012 -> stop reading, you know enough
2. I changed the course few times during this year (blog using a ghost writer, a course sold via Clickbank, again the blog but now run by myself, another blog) going up to having the website ready in 70-90% but never actually launching. Commitment for 2012 -> focus on one thing and do it from start to finish.
3. I’ve registered for many services that I was planning to use in my business (paypal, clickbank, optimizepress, aweber, woothemes, clicky, optimizely, google apps, facebook, gravatar, akismet, crankyads), registered for several affiliate programs, made few wordpress installations and reviewed ~200 wordpress plugins to find those that would be beneficial. The results – a year has passed and I have no website/product/service that is live. Instead I’m quite overwhelmed and busy with the maintenance. Commitment for 2012 -> get back to basics and keep things simple stupid.
4. Too much thinking, too less sleeping and trying to work in the evenings (I have a day job and two small kids at home). I feel drained, angry and my productivity sucks. Commitment for 2012 -> for smart, not hard. Keep things simple and look for shortcuts.
That’s about it. Let’s see if I can now keep up to the commitments…
Steve
Wow Johnny,
The good news is that you seem to have a pretty clear understanding of what you need to do and what your shortfalls are. It’s on you to do it now. Hopefully you will find inspiration here (if you need it) and please feel free to email me any time.
By the way, what are your blogs?
Keshav
The only thing that saved this blog was YOU- you made the decision. You just called them to listen to yourself, you already knew what they were going to say!
Give yourself more credit, from where I’m standing and thousands of others you’r already a success – you’ve got so many people listening to you.
I would say – Not to take life very seriously. A little dance and a little song will help you along 🙂
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERbvKrH-GC4
You’ll get there……
Steve
Keshav my friend,
You are a wise man and speak the truth. This is exactly what Marcus has said but for me, I needed the validation. I’ve got all the tools to kick ass and do great things. Now I get to use them!
I am very fortunate to have many people who do care about me and my story and I’m very lucky to have that.And the video is great! Just what I needed…
Talk with you soon…
Johnny
Yes, I have pretty good understanding of my shortfalls (I think) but I’m afraid I won’t learn the lesson and the next year will be the same as this one.
My blogs exist only in my mind – I haven’t launched even a single one…
Oh, and I’ve stumbled upon two clever advices, which I want to share with you:
“If you want to make money, you have to sell something”
“Don’t be afraid to put a price tag on your work”
If I remember correctly, the first one comes from Leslie (http://www.learningwithleslie.com/) and the second one comes from the 37 signals’ book called “Rework” (http://37signals.com/rework/).
Maybe we both spend too much time doing things which actually do not bring any money?
Regards,
Johnny
P.S. You can also email me at any time.
Steve
Johnny,
You’re right, it all boils down to selling something if you want to make money. For the first year of this blog, I didn’t sell anything (except a short lived blog review service) but I still figured that I would somehow make money. Well obviously it didn’t happen and now I am finally starting to understand how this all works.
As far as putting a price tag on our work, I think a lot of people (including me) are afraid to charge for their time and/or services. We see a ton of free stuff out there and many people will never be able to earn any kind of significant income online because of it.
Also, too many people get too wrapped up in just trying to make money. If we provide incredible content and make people care about what we are doing, the money will come. We need to focus on helping others with their issues, problems, needs, etc and then, and only then, should we look to make money.
There is far too much shit online and shitty people selling uselsss products and gimmicks. Quality and giving a shit about people will be the way to make our mark and make money as well..
Johnny
That’s very true 🙂
BethanyBob
I agree with Marcus — to be honest, I skimmed through the last handful of blog posts, but didn’t sit down and actually read them. Because they were all the same post, rehashed.
I will make time to read actual epiphanies and inspiring action-y posts. Otherwise, I’m busy-busy and don’t have time for fluff.
So, remember: start anywhere; baby steps add up. Congrats on calling your brother! And here’s to The Big Project!
Steve
Bethany,
When you stop reading my stuff, I know there’s a problem!
Thanks for being a consistent support for me, I really do appreciate it 🙂
BethanyBob
Heh! 😉
You’re welcome! Merry Festivities of Your Choosing!
Danny @ Firepole Marketing
Steve, I’m really glad to see that you’re springing into action! 🙂
Steve
Danny,
You’ve helped more than you know in all of this. Actually, you probably do know and are too humble to mention it 🙂
I’m really looking forward to this coming year and working alongside you. Thanks for everything!
Tom Treanor
Steve, amazing things happen when you finish things! Starting a lot of things is great, ideas are great, intentions are great, but successful people finish. I’m applying this logic to my own business and am definitely seeing it bear fruit.
In fact I just finished a massive undertaking that I could have given up on multiple times (it also included Danny Iny and Marcus Sheridan) but I pushed through to the end and that has paid a lot of dividends. Please push ahead (and ironically see the post I published today about being “a closer”).
Steve
Tom,
What normally happens is that I get super fired up about a project, start it, work on it for a while, and then get bored. I finish very few things. Not a good habit I know.
Great for you for getting through your rough times and getting your stuff done. What was it?
Tom Treanor
Steve,
Yeah, maybe you can stop starting things you’re not going to follow through on and pick that few that you’re going to take over the finish line. It’s a great feeling to finish things (and you learn a lot doing the final 20%)!
My event was the Business Blogging Telesummit: http://www.bizbloggingtelesummit.com/
Steve
Tom,
That’s a good start for me! I do have a number of things I plan on doing in 2012and will be sharing them all publicly here. Being accountable will certainly help, but is far from a guarantee I will actually do it. I can tell you that I am going to do the best I can..
I’ll check out the link as well, thanks.
Amber-Lee (@girlygrizzly)
Steve!
Dude.
I can’t add anything except to ask you to go back up to the top of all these comments and read John F.’s response again right now…(go on…)
I have been thinking about this so much these last couple of months…ah, about the time the shit hit your fan!
I just got off the phone with my Mom, in NH. and she was talking about the “family” and all the STUPID little wars going on. Keep calling until you reach your brother. Every day, until you FIX this.
Steve, tell us what’s up with your surprise! I’ve been looking forward to it since you first mentioned it.
Marcus is a great friend. (really) I would rather have a pal that will talk straight to me than blow sunshine up my ass. (who really wouldn’t?)
I know it is hard to take those steps and follow through to the finish line, but really..(?) only the first time.
Your friend, Keshav, mentioned another VERY IMPORTANT point. YOU DID THIS. Don’t ever forget that and that you have touched people with YOUR struggle and the path.
Most people (I would think) don’t make changes like turning on or off the switch. It IS scary. Come on, lets slam a full sugar red bull and ring in 2012!
Don’t Quit.
(that’s all.)
~Amber-Lee
P.S. What’s a Mastermind thingy?
P.S.S. Call your brother again…
Steve
Amber-Lee,
John made a great point and I’m not worried about this project being a flop. I am committed to it and will be posting the details next week. MY brother has yet to return my call and he probably won’t. I will call him again on Christmas.
I don’t know why I am keeping my project a surprise, although it’s kind of fun being dramatic! You’ll know soon enough 🙂
I’ve got some truly remarkable people supporting and helping me and I’m not sure where I would be without it all.
You know what’s interesting is that I know I have touched many people with my story but it’s hard for me to accept credit for the good that has come from it. I know it’s stupid but I’m just not comfortable being recognized for doing something important. I know I need to get over that and this coming year will put me to the test!
And hell, yes, let’s have a Red Bull! I’ve already had 2 today but I’m game for another!
P.S. A mastermind group is a collaboration of people (usually a peer group)who have similar goals and meet or talk at specified times to share ideas, brainstorm, or hold each other accountable. Something like that…and yes, it works!
Joe D.
Steve,
You’re the best, man. Your posts are just too real. John stole what I wanted to say right off the bat. We are all full of shit!!! So stop sweating being full of shit! It doesn’t matter!
Do what you can to dedicate yourself to your family and your God. Start what you can, and don’t worry too much about what other people think.
Just keep writing. You can be full of shit. Make sure you make that shit entertaining!
Steve
No Joe, you’re the best! I will say the one thing that I know I have going for me is that I keep it real. As you’ve seen, I don’t mind looking like an asshole if I am being one.
As much fun as being full of shit is, I’d rather not be 🙂 I want to produce and get things done. But if I don’t, then I’ll try to keep you amused 🙂
Steve
Brad,
Loving this comment 🙂
Up until the Penelope interview, I was a one track minded blogger. It was all about the job and getting out. Since then, I’ve had to do some real work on myself and it’s all come out in my writing. I do talk a mean game, but have done little to back it up. Until now.
I do have a number of really incredible people in my corner (including you of course) and it seems I have a golden opportunity to do some real good for myself and for many, many others.
Now it’s on me to put out. If not, I’m done…
Thanks for the real, dude!
Adrienne
Hey Steve,
Well, it’s time for me to give you my two cents worth so here it goes.
I do agree that we all are bullshitters from time to time. Those that realize it, call ourselves out on it and then step up to the plate are the ones that are going to do better and be better.
I will admit, I have very little patience for people who are all talk and no action. It gets to a point where I could play the recorded conversation back because it’s the same thing every time and nothing ever gets done. In your case though, it’s your blog posts.
I also look forward to coming to your blog to read your latest post to see that you’ve finally started doing the work and are now starting to see the benefits. Problem is, that’s yet to happen. Marcus is right, all you blog about these days is the same old crap.
Here’s the deal though Steve. We all believe in you. I also know that deep down inside you also believe in yourself. If not, you wouldn’t have put yourself out there for the entire world to read. Maybe being called out on your crap was exactly what you needed. It’s the push in the right direction.
All it takes is taking those steps in the right direction and by picking up the phone and calling your brother, you made the right choice. I’m proud of you Steve.
Now, finish up that project and we want to hear all about it. I have no doubt it will be good because you will have accomplished the work. That in itself was worth it.
Merry Christmas Steve and I hope you and your family have a wonderful holiday season.
~Adrienne
Steve
Adrienne,
So you’re finally letting me have it! Good. You have always been so positive almost to the point of cheerleading, but I prefer to hear the real deal. I know you don’t like to hurt people’s feelings, so I really appreciate your honesty here.
And you’re right, I have been producing the same crap for 2 months and it has to end. Thanks for the word “crap” 🙂
I will be sharing my ideas for 2012 in my post next week and am very interested in hearing your feedback!
Have a wonderful holiday, my friend..
Jim
I just read some of what you write because I know you are going to do nothing and it is amusing. You are a total train wreck. You will never do anything because you are lazy. I know it and you know it.
Steve
What’s wrong with you, dude?
Carl Ringwall
I’d say give yourself a holiday rest and re-launch yourself after New Years.
I’m going to take a whole week off and get my conflicting priories sorted by cleaning up my barn and pushing some horse manure around. Hopefully the real stuff will give me some perspective on the virtual kind.
Steve
Carl,
A holiday rest, are you mad?!? I have been “resting” for far too long and I simply don’t have the time to do it anymore. I’ve got a long list of things to do before I launch this project and will be working through Xmas.
As for you, that actually sounds like a good idea. Often, doing manual labor or non business related things is a great way to refocus. Have a great holiday..
Lindsay
Steve,
Have you ever read The War of Art or Do the Work by Steven Pressfield? I couldn’t help thinking about it when I was reading your post because it seems like you’re fighting the “resistance” that all of us face when we try to create something meaningful.
Resistance is self-generated. Resistance will tell you anything to keep you from doing your work. The battle against resistance must be fought anew every day. Resistance is fueled by fear.
“Resistance is the most powerful at the finish line. The danger is the greatest when the finish line is in sight. At this point, Resistance knows we’re about to beat it. It hits the panic button. It marshals one last assault and slams us with everything it’s got.”
I’m glad to hear that you’re pushing against the Resistance. Know that you’re not alone. It’s something we all battle every day. You’re at the finish line and that’s why you’re feeling more pressure from Resistance to give up.
I’m excited to see the new site design and hear about the new project you’ve been working on!
Merry Christmas!
Lindsay
Steve
Hey Lindsay,
I have heard so much about Pressfield’s stuff that I finally had to order Do The Work. Just got it today though, so I haven’t read any of it.
I can honestly say that I fight with resistance all day every day. Or at least that’s how it feels. I suppose the answer is to just keep “doing” until we get our desired result.
Have a great Christmas!
Ruth - The Freelance Writing Blog
I promise to be the next one to call bullshit if you drag this out any longer. And I make that promise knowing that you’ve already put the wheels in motion. Like Tom and Danny and Marcus, I believe you’re on the verge of success.
We are all afraid of being average. I lost that blogging contest. I didn’t even crack the top 20. I felt suckier than average when I saw the list.
But here’s the thing. I feel even MORE emboldened now to crack it. Those other bloggers will eat my dust. I have lots to learn but I believe in myself.
Eat them words Steve!
Steve
Ruth,
I know you will call bullshit on me! That’s why I value your friendship so much. I know you support me here but have no qualms about letting me have it.
I’m not happy about the contest results as I really think your site provides a wealth of useful information…
I like your spirit of going after it and I have no doubt you’ll get what you want…
Tony Elam
Well you have a great group of supporters here. I believe that’s an accomplishment. I know it’s not what you are ultimately aiming for but it’s something.
Dan Miller of 48Days.net completed 10 projects out of 12 this year. He told me that he doesn’t beat himself up about the other two because he knows most people struggle to get one out.
Also, I just happened to listen to The Rise to the Top today where he interviewed the guy who started App Sumo. He had it out and operating in a month and it was horrible. It’s worth listening to (If you have kids put your earphones in 🙂 I think we put to many big steps that we think are required to make a business, or other things in life. The App sumo guy said you don’t even need a website to start! He built his with email. Anyways just focus on getting the next step done, and then the next. Just evaluate as your moving an take the next action. You can always improve on it later. Don’t beat your self up too much, but keep it honest.
Steve
Tony,
I love having a community like this! It’s all part of what I’m doing here. I’m trying to inspire/help as many people as I can and I will be doing great things in 2012. I wouldn’t trade all this support for anything!
To be honest, I’m not afraid to fail, more so to succeed!
Thanks!!
Greg
Your comment above said more to me than anything within the post:
“It’s hard for me to accept credit for the good that has come from it. I know it’s stupid but I’m just not comfortable being recognized for doing something important.”
I know you want to help people change their lives, but maybe you are basing your goals on what has worked for other people, not necessarily what you are comfortable with. Maybe being a life coach or authority figure is just not right for you.
A personal example of this – I created a social network website for athletes around 5 years ago. It was turning out great, but in the end I did not finish it or launch it. Why? Because I didn’t want to deal with all the headaches that come along with managing a community of users.
I also draw caricatures as a hobby. This was my full-time job during college. I have worked many 12-14 hour days in the heat and rain dealing with the occasional rude customer or crying baby. However, I can sit and draw with dozens of people looking over my shoulder and a line 2 hours long and be totally at peace because I love doing it so much.
Moral – I just wasn’t comfortable thinking of myself as the next great internet entrepreneur or dealing with the hassles that come along with that type of venture, but I sure as hell would love to become rich and famous for my artwork someday… whether it’s through magazine illustrations or children’s books, etc.
I hope your new project succeeds. But if not, maybe this is why (or maybe I’m way off track). Personally, I think you could put together a full book of ‘Ending the Grind’ short stories and SELL it (not give it away 😉 You could create an online store with inspirational artwork that people could hang in there cubes to inspire them to end their own grind (it could just be a photo with an inspirational quote).
‘Ending the Grind’ could be such a great, powerful brand. You don’t have to follow the exact blueprint of other bloggers you admire… there are a lot of different roads to success.
Steve
Greg,
Interesting comment here, man.
I think the fear of success I have is so ingrained that I prefer to fly under the radar and be an unknown. But deep down, I know that’s bullshit. I really believe that I have a great deal to offer this world and I should be willing to embrace whatever comes with that. And I will, it will just be a challenge.
For example, I am terrified of public speaking but often think about being a motivational type speaker. Why? Because I can share my story and message with people and it will work! I’m sure recognition will come along with that and is something that I will handle when I get there.
As I start to grow as a person and start impacting more lives, I think my mindset will change. I could be wrong,but that’s what I believe.
And you’re right, I could probably package something and sell it. I could even make a few thousand bucks. But so what. That doesn’t change my life. I’ve gone through some tough times and am going through personal struggle in my marriage and I need to focus on becoming a better person and finding a way to make myself happy. If I can do that, I think I will have all the money I need.
Great comment by the way and I really appreciate your kind words here.
Have a great holiday!
Greg
Ok, I am beginning to understand your priorities better, and I agree with everything you said 100%. Find happiness first and the money will come.
I would love to see a post of things that make you happy. You’ve written a lot about your past and current struggles, but I really have no idea what types of things you enjoy. When are you the happiest? A post like that would be great to ring in the new year.
Steve
Greg,
That’s a great idea and the whole direction and focus of this blog are changing. I will be talking about many new things and am excited about what’s going to happen!
Cordelia
Steve:
I’ve been feeling for you so much over your recent posts. Because I know the feeling so well. And because, like plenty of other people here have said, we all know that you have in you the ability to do great things. More importantly, you clearly have the fire and the passion for it–and that’s 80% of the battle in doing anything awesome.
Now what you need to work on is just letting that fire move you to action, and letting go of all the self-analysis and wheel-spinning and doubting yourself. STOP THINKING, START DOING.
I’ve made a million choices about my blog and my approach that were risky or dubious–some paid off, some didn’t. Remember the Acts of Awesomeness? I don’t think many people do. Remember the bumper sticker? Probably not, because I pulled that page shortly after realizing it was never going to take off. It’s all a process of learning through experimentation. You’ll have some failures and some spectacular hits, but as long as you just keep pushing forward in spite of them, you *will* make overall progress.
That’s what people want to see. Not someone who does everything perfectly, not someone who’s got it all figured out, just someone who’s TRYING, and being honest about their struggles and journey. Stop being so hard on yourself, stop wondering and worrying and rehashing, and just DO!
You can do it. We all know you can. So let’s see it!
Steve
Hey Kelly,
Stop thinking and start doing! That’s all it comes down to. I am so tired of thinking and analyzing every aspect of my life, but yet I still do it. And I’ve talked myself out of taking action sooooo many times. Well, not in 2012! That’s going to change and I really excited that you will be a big part of this journey!!
I think the bottom line is that I just need to do something. Even if my project is a huge bust and nobody cares, I still need to move forward on it. Calling my brother was one step and now I get to follow it up with a hundred more.
And I have no fear of failing and looking bad here. Hell, I’ve already laid out some pretty private (and none too flattering) details about my life.
I know that I will lose my readers if I don’t do something and I can’t let that happen. I love this blog and what I’ve managed to build so far. So 2012 will be an interesting year for me, for you, and for many others..
Stephen Smith
Dude, you just have to do it. Stop blogging and create that thing. It does not have to be huge or epic. Just a minimum viable product, that first building block. I finally got over my procrastination and published my first Kindle book (http://tinyurl.com/7y6hbo6) and have been focusing on my Premium content.
I feel great, things are moving along, and I am incredibly motivated.
And seriously, read The War of Art with a pen & paper in your hand. It will help you identify some of the things that are holding you back.
Steve
Stephen,
My blogging IS my thing. My project for 2012 is what I am focusing all my energy on with the goal of becoming a better (and happier person). I don’t know if I will release a product as of yet and I’ve stopped thinking about it. This year will be about changing my life for the better and taking others along with me. If a product comes into mind, then maybe I will do it.
Awesome for you for releasing your book! It sounds like you’ve got some great things ahead for yourself..
I just bought “Do The Work” and will be reading that soon.
Thanks and have a great holiday.
Jared
Steve,
I can empathize with your feelings. I think we all struggle with things in our heads and let those thoughts take over and we end up like mummies in front of the computer.
What I think is hilariously ironic is that you have a ton of comments on all your posts with a small audience of subscribers that’s at roughly 500 peeps.
I’ve been blogging for over two years and I consider it a good day to get just one comment.
I mean check out this post…I’m adding comment #50 something!
Be grateful, continue working at it man.
Eventually it’ll work out for you.
Have a merry Christmas.
Jared
Steve
Jared,
Thanks for the perspective, it helps to hear it sometimes 🙂
I am very fortunate to have all these great people who actually care about me and my life. I don’t think I take any of it for granted, I just get caught up in analyzing every aspect of my life and blog all day, every day.
I appreciate the kind words and I hope you have a safe holiday.
Scott
Steve,
Man I have to tell you again. You and I are so much alike.
I almost gave up about 2 weeks ago. I am not “doing” what I need to do. All my actions are in my head. I thank you for sharing with us.
2012 IS going to be better. I WILL take at least one action per day.
Thanks bud,
Scott
We still need to Skype sometime my friend. What is your Skype name? You can email it to me if you like. Would you be available next week? Thanks! Have a great Christmas!
Steve
Scott,
It dies seem as though we have many similarities…And as for being in your head, welcome to my life 🙂
Are you accountable to anyone besides yourself right now? How are you going to make yourself take 1 action every day? I’m lucky because I have some really awesome people holding me to my word. How about you? Who do you have?
And yes, we need to chat for sure. Next week might be tough though as I am getting ready to roll out my new project. My Skype handle is stephen.r.roy
Have a great holiday, my friend..
Scott
Steve,
Thanks for your response bud.
I have known for a while that I needed someone to be accountable to but I do not. That has been a way out for me.
I guess that I thought that I do not know anyone personally in blogging or internet marketing so how can they help me….but its not about that. It is about making sure that I am taking action. Thanks for calling me on that.
That will be my next action. Thanks Steve!!! Wow! How much words from someone can open your eyes.
I understand about next week. Cant wait to hear about your project! Just let me know when would be good for you my friend.
Thanks again…
Scott
Lis Sowerbutts
I think you need to focus on one thing at at time. sort out your family relationships, your spirituality or your income goals- stop trying to do it all at the same time.
REally if you haven’t talked to your brother in 6 years – will another few months matter that much?
Steve
Lis,
My plan for 2012 is to take on one new area of my life each month. While this might still be doing too many things at once, it’s what I am doing. And I’m not willing to wait another month with my brother.
Keith
I have to say, in complete honesty Steve. Most of the people here probably don’t really care…. sure they comment, they exude concern (some of them genuine), but let’s face it: People like you come and go every day in the blogosphere. And to be honest, I have my doubts if you will make it.
You are calling bullshit on yourself, but only in your inaction. I think you are completely unwilling to do ‘whatever’ it takes to actually end the grind. If you weren’t, you would use your expertise and experience to actually make some damned money, even if you don’t like that field. I know you read my story about my journey, and that was only part of it. If I can wash dishes, you can find a way to use what you do for a living now to help boost your income and leave your job.
If you are really hungry, you will do anything to quit your job, just like I washed dishes to get back on my feet!
Think about it…..
Steve
Keith,
I know you’re right about people not really caring. I’ve written about it and understand that if I disappeared, I would become just a distant memory very quickly online.
As far as me making it online, I can totally see how you would think that. I’ve been all over the place as far as my goals/strategies or lack thereof. I’ve decided to make this less about building a business online to building a better and happier life. My project revolves around this concept and I will be working on recreating myself instead of focusing on building an income here. I’m ok with sticking out my job for another year while I get refocused on what’s really important in my life.
Who knows, I may never make another dime online. I’ve spent too much time worrying how I can build an online business and not nearly enough on figuring out what I really want and why.
I will be the first to admit that I’m not willing to do whatever it takes to get out of my job. As much as it sucks, it’s comfortable enough not to quit. There are some big changes with my job coming in February and I have a different outlook on things because of it.
You know by now that I’m stuck in my head constantly and instead of just talking about things, I am doing them in 2012. Maybe I’ll fail miserably and nobody will give a shit about what I’m doing but I am moving forward with my plan to better myself and work on the important issues in my life.
I have a ton of respect for you for sucking it up and doing shit work in order to get what you really wanted.
Have a great Christmas buddy..
Keith
Rolling through these comments, I see you have built a huge community here, and that’s great. I used to have a “blog about blogging” that had a nice big community around it too, until I started selling shit! You will see where your customers really come from after you offer up that product….. most likely it will be names you never heard of before, lurkers that land here from search engines or referrals.
I found that about 98%of my commenters never bought a thing, never clicked through an affiliate link, they just commented and gave their opinions, like my site was their personal forum.
It wasn’t until I got away from them that I was able to really start making the money I wanted, and be happy again.
I do have to admit, your story is fascinating, and I have been stuck on it ever since Penelope kicked you in the balls…
Hope you had a great Christmas bro, I am headed back to the beach from my mountain place later, you know how to reach me if you need anything!
Steve
Yea, the community here is awesome. Honestly, I have no idea how or why so many people are interested in my story…it’s pretty surreal and I am just so thankful that I have impacted this many people.
We’ve talked about commenters vs customers before and you’re exactly right. Very few of my regular commenters will buy something from me and I’m ok with that. I’m focusing on the next 12 months of my life and the changes I can make. Not the money I can make. I’ll be fine for another year working my job and really have to just focus on doing good things and trying to find some peace and happiness in my life..
Thanks for the support dude. I appreciate it, seriously.
Stephen Smith
I have to echo part of Keith’s sentiment, and shed a little light on something for you:
“Honestly, I have no idea how or why so many people are interested in my story…it’s pretty surreal …”
People are interested because we want you to succeed!
I am telling you, if you collated all of the comments since the ‘podcast with Penelope’ post and interspersed them with that post, this post and your ‘big announcement’ post you would have a self-help e-book of massive proportions with specific, actionable steps for achieving success.
People buy things like that every day. Products like that turn bloggers into world-traveling speakers. Ask Leo.
Please send me a copy of your to-do list via e-mail and I will review it with you, help you prioritize and organize it, and then hold you accountable on a daily basis.
Free.
Because I think I am going to write a frickin’ case-study on this phenomenon. I see it so much I can’t not see it.
You have a gift for writing that has attracted quite an engaged audience. I’d hate to see it squandered. Let’s make something happen.
Send me that e-mail today. Or call me – 603-287-1864 (Google Voice). Seriously, if I see another post like this I won’t be back.
Steve
Hi Stephen,
Thanks for your kind offer, I’ve really appreciated your feedback here and think you add a lot of value to the conversations.
I realize that I could create a product with all the information I’ve received and maybe make a decent amount of money. But that’s not my goal. My goal is to work on finding the things that make me happy and I’m going to be doing whatever it takes to find that.
I’ve spent many years living in a shell. A shell of misery and comfort. My life has become a grind and I know that if I don’t do something right now, I never will. But it’s not about making money online or anything like that. It’s about doing the things I have been afraid to.
I sincerely appreciate your offer to help but have already committed myself to my project group for accountability. My goals will be posted here next week and it would be great to see you back…
Tracey
Oh my god! Would you stop yapping about it and actually do something? As a reformed procrastinator I can tell you this. Fix the shit you need to fix. Your list at the top has easy stuff on it. Serving god, serving your wife, serving your boss – just decide to do them all from today. You won’t be perfect but make a freaking start. If you stuff up apologize along the way and keep trying your best. Don’t drag out your marriage if it’s crap. Give your wife and yourself a break if that’s what’s meant to happen. If you really wanted to apologize to your brother, you’d have kept calling every hour until you got him. Or got on a plane to do it in person. How genuine do you think he’ll think you are if you don’t call back for days? Stop talking and blogging about this shit. I shudder to think how many hours you’ve spent replying to all these comments when you should be doing something useful! Just do it. JUST DO IT!!!! And bloody start now. Everyone on here is being so supportive – I just want to give you a good hard slap!!!
Steve
Tracey,
Points taken.
I’ll pass on the slap though…
Jens P. Berget
Hi Steve,
You certainly got a very popular blog and you’re an awesome writer. That’s something. And that’s also about taking action.
I’ve been writing m first novel for more than a year now, and before I started this huge project, I wanted to get things done fast, really fast. Now I’m more fan of slow. I don’t need results fast. But I do write every single day, and do some action every single day – it’s sort of who I am right now.
I’m looking forward to keep in touch with you during 2012, we’re on the same path, we’re the same age, and so many other things are similar in life.
I’m sure you’ll get in touch with your brother, and I can’t wait to read the story and your Ebook. I’ll buy it no matter what topic it’s about 🙂
Happy holidays Steve.
Steve
Jens,
To be honest, writing here is not what I consider “action”. The hard things I need to doing my life requite action and those are the things I have to do. These are the things I am doing in 2012.
You seem to be a very genuine guy and I appreciate your kind words. It sounds like we have much in common and I hope our paths will cross some day, It would be great to meet you..
Enjoy your holiday!
Joe
Steve,
Here is one piece of advice I can give you: you are going to fail! As scary as that sounds, it’s the honest truth. It’s the honest truth for all of us. As humans, we have our successes and our failures. In our careers, our personal lives, in a given day, we need to be prepared to accept we will have our fair share of failure. Realize those that fail are the ones in the long run will likely find the most success, fulfillment and happiness. With failure comes learning and intelligence which will help make you an overall success. Embrace the fact that you may fall flat on your face. It’s the “getting up” part that will make you a better person.
The trick is to decide what is important and what is not. That is, what we choose to fail at because there are other things more important where we want to succeed. A had a boss in the corporate world once tell me; “you need to decide what are the priorities to concentrate on and tune out the other noise.”
And just to let you know, I’m equally as guilty as you in not taking action. The discovery of your blog has actually helped me to realize I need to do more action instead of wallowing in my own misery. Based on that statement, I think you can start to understand the potential of your Project. I relate 100% to your quest and wish you the best of luck and success.
Joe
Steve
Joe,
I have no qualms about failing whatsoever and am prepared to meet with resistance when I start this project. My issue is action. It’s the fear of taking action and having great things that scare me, not the failing. I’m all about learning from my mistakes and is one of the reasons I love the community here-they really help me understand so many things that I didn’t realize or know.
I know I’ve lost a number of readers who have had enough of my “talking” about action and not actually doing anything, but that IS changing. I love to read a comment like yours when I am actually responsible for helping someone. I hope you’ll be a part of my project and look forward to seeing you around here…
Tracey
Called him yet?
Steve
Yes and we had a wonderful conversation. I’m working on a post right now that will share some of the conversation. Thanks for following up!
Tracey
GOOD ON YOU!!!! Now THAT is some serious action!! Taking action on the hard stuff and getting a good outcome should make the next one so much easier! If you just DO IT good things will come! I’m so impressed that you followed through this time.
Jay Adams
great first move with your brother Steve. we would be missing out if you just disappeared and we never heard from you again. keep taking the next step.
Steve
Thanks Jay, I really appreciate that. I’m just really grateful that I have so many people that care about what I’m doing here…
Harriet
Sometimes you need someone to tell it to you straight before you can grow and move on. Its good that you got some construction from your criticism!
Kelly McCausey
Steve, as small as our internet marketing world seems some days I can’t believe I’ve never met you before. I found you today from one of Carrie Wilkerson’s tweets. (Pleased to meetcha)
Dude, you are so transparent it hurts. This is not a bad thing but it sure does invite input doesn’t it?
I only know you from this post, your about page and episode number one of your podcast – where you interviewed SETH GODIN!!! With that small basis of understanding, I have to say – you rock 🙂
I’m not blowing flowers up your butt. That’s not my style and you don’t need it. I’m just recognizing that you have a foundation of skill and gumption that can and will help you do amazing things when you’re ready to do them.
I’d love to have a conversation with you one day. Please do shout out if you’d like to.
Steve
Hi Kelly,
Good to meet you as well 🙂
I’ve figured 2 things out and they are:
1. I am good at expressing my feelings, thoughts, and emotions and writing about them
2. People love to read about it
I’ll admit I got a lucky break with Seth Godin but feel like I’ve done pretty well as far as putting out very good content. I’ve also come to realize that I have managed to build quite a community here and I know great things will come from all my work here..
Would love to chat sometime in the new year…
Amy
I stumbled upon your page, and your project, because of the Barefoot Exec’s retweet today. But after only 20 mins of reading, I see so much of myself in you, it’s a little bit frightening. The good news is your message hit me right in the heart. It sounds so genuine and heartfelt, and describes exactly how I am feeling. It also motivates me to not waste another day, planning, reading and thinking about what has to be done. God works in mysterious ways sometimes! I cannot wait to see what you unveil in 2012, and best of luck.
Steve
Hi Amy,
It’s amazing how many times I hear people tell me that they see themselves in what I’m going through. I think it’s the main reason people are so interested in what I’m doing here to be honest. My hope is that through my journey from a low point in my life to putting forth massive action and creating something better, people will be inspired to do the same. Life is so damn short and it’s a true tragedy when it’s spent doing meaningless and unfulfilling things..
Jayne Kopp
Well… must say Steve that I still can’t help but to be impressed.
I do agree with you and many of the readers above that you do need to start taking action rather than thinking and talking about it, however I also understand your predicament.
You are a “green” personality like me… we have the same ‘whateveritwas score’…
I also understand your exhaustion, your turmoil and how it drains you of energy and action. some days are good and other days are like ‘pulling a piano’ … uphill.
Its all about getting ‘well’… and I don’t mean you’re sick but lack of happiness creates lack of ambition or even esteem.
I know you’ll chug through this… I just know it. You’ve come to far to quit… you just need to make those tweaks and go a bit further.
Hey listen, you’ve got a great writing style and a great bunch of visitors coming over here.
Having the stuffing knocked out of you… when much of it was limp to begin with has been difficult to rise above and heal from. (not saying you didn’t absorb it or take it well)… you just needed to re shuffle and find the right fit.
To be honest, I do admire your sharing so openly. We humans are funny little critters. I’ve been there so I know first hand.
What I will tell you is that once you start making progress it will all lift and while I do not believe you’ll forget these feelings, you will not look at them as being as heavy.
You’ll see!! I know you will.
Rooting for you my friend… you betta keep me posted! 😉
Jayne
mike
Amen to that.
It’s difficult to set goals.
It’s difficult to do something.
Just Do Something
Steve
Mike,
It is difficult to get off our asses and actually do things. But without taking that step, we will accomplish very little..
mike
So this year let’s not wait until next year to make a change.
Every minute – each second – is an opportunity to make things right.
Stay well.
– m
Steve
You have a great point Mike…
Jean Paul
I don’t know if you have done so already. But call your brother and talk to him. Him not picking up the phone is no excuse for you to stop trying.
Sorry to be so direct… as a matter of fact… I will finish writing this comment and call my sister…
Take care and good luck!
Steve
I have called him and we had a great conversation. I’m so glad I finally did it!
And good for you for calling your sister….you did call your sister right??
Jean Paul
Yes I did! It was great too! You have just earned yourself a new subscriber and supporter! Happy 2012!
Steve
Good for you man!
Jean Paul
Dave…. just one more thing… Have you ever thought of changing the title of your blog? I mean the change is coming part… If change is coming… will change ever actually take place? I don’t know if this makes sense to you… just a random thought.
Take care. JP
Steve
Jean Paul,
First off, my name is Steve, not Dave 🙂
The tagline I put up there is temporary and was up for only 2 days.
If you look now, you will see the new one…
Thanks
Jean Paul
Sorry about the name… Steve…
Great title!
Danes
I have to admit the only reason I’m here is because I’m a fan of penelope and I did a search for her on itunes and happen to find your podcast where you did an “interview” with her.
Good luck with everything.
Steve
Danes,
That’s just fine with me! Thanks for stopping by..
Sebastian Aiden Daniels
I am interested in reading all of your other posts so I can understand your journey : D.
A part of this post that really struck me was that you read a dozen books but applied nothing that they taught you. I think this is a common thing that happens for a lot of people. They read the self-help books, but they never actually apply the stuff in the books.
It is also so easy to get lost in thought and never take action or get so stuck in thought and anxiety.
Steve
This is true, Sebastian. I know many people who have libraries stacked with books they’ve read and have applied virtually nothing. They say that knowledge is power but I believe that applied knowledge is where the power is.
Kevin
Hi Steve,
you have a good website here, interesting content, great posts, smart design. You’ve also done well to package up the Penelope Trunk interview. (but you could have offered it for sale – after all doesnt it have value? – chance lost).
But it’s not clear to me where this website is supposed to lead the reader. Is it really about “ending the grind”? It seems to be regurgitating the same old theme over and over again with no practical alternative.
I dont know what you’re doing beyond this website, but it seems to me that this blog is not really about “ending” the grind, but more about continuing the grind and staying in the grind.
I find all this “gee I hate my job” stuff really boring after a while.
I used to blog about this kind of theme, but when I quit my job and started my own business I didnt see the need for it and I was not interested in blogging about it anymore.
And by the way, I dont think people can truly “end the grind” by starting a business. There’s more “grind” involved in being your own boss than there is in being an employee.
But the way to really “end the grind” (as far as we can) is to quit talking about “ending the grind” and get on with building a business and working on that.
Steve
Hey Kevin,
I’m not sure if you noticed, but this post is almost 3 years old.
As far as the Penelope interview, I did miss my window of opportunity to capitalize on how popular it was at the time. I actually took 2012/2013 off from blogging but decided to create an eBook detailing the lessons I learned from Penelope. It’s what I use for my free opt in bonus.
When you say regurgitating the same theme over and over, I have to ask how many posts you’ve read. Each post is a story and part of my personal experiences. It’s all intended to light a spark under someone’s ass to get them moving forward. My target reader is not you, so I don’t expect you to necessarily find this useful.
My site is designed to give people hope. People who are like I was for 10 years. In the last year, I have quit my career to start several businesses, got divorced and started a much healthier relationship, and get to do what I love each day. I’m sorry you find that boring and useless, but I disagree completely.
I was in a horrible place for a very long time and turned my life around 180 degrees. My message is that if I can do it, I know they can too.
And ending the grind is directed to those looking to change their life, which for many, has become tedious, unfulfilling, and often times, shitty. I realize that having a business is more work than being an employee, but in my opinion, far more rewarding and well worth the effort.