Falling Down
Oct

Given the recent turn of events on my blog, many of you are probably expecting me to announce all the projects I’ve started and the progress I’m making. You might even be expecting me to announce a product launch! After all, I’ve put myself out there and made a public commitment to creating a business here.
But I’m not going to do that. Not today anyway.
The reason is that I’ve hit a wall. Or should I say I have an emotional dilemma. I’ve also had a very difficult time writing this post..
Falling Into Place
For as long as I can remember, I’ve thought things would just “fall into place” for me.
When I was 20, I thought I was invincible and that things would work out grandly for me. I thought I would be rich beyond measure by the time I was 30. I thought I would have all that I wanted in life, although I had no idea how.
When I turned 30, I was waiting tables at the Hard Rock Cafe and hating it. I thought things would fall into place for me because I was better than that. That my time was worth more than what I was earning.
When I turned 40, I thought that with all the time and energy I’ve invested into my “career”, things would fall into place. After all, I deserve to make more money, be happier, and have the good things in life, right?
None of these things have worked out like I thought and nothing has fallen into place as I expected.
I honestly have no idea where I got it, but I have some weird sense of entitlement. I feel like the world owes me. That’s why I expect things to just come together and for the world to fall at my feet.
But it won’t.
It makes no sense, but it’s like I feel I’m due a happy, successful life because of all the struggles I’ve gone though in my life.
And I haven’t even had a tough life.
It’s finally become apparent that life is not going to just work out how I want. I’m actually going to have to become the person I need to be in order to get what I want.
If Only I…
As far back as I can remember, I have always attributed my lack of happiness, lack of success, and lack of financial security to my job(s). They were always keeping me down. They weren’t the right fit. They didn’t see the value I bring. They didn’t pay me what I was worth. I could go on….
If only I could quit my job, things would get better. If I quit, I would have more time to spend writing great content on my blog and building a business. If I quit, I would be happier and my life would actually be enjoyable. If I quit, my marriage would be happier. If I quit….
But the truth of the matter is that it’s just not true. It’s fucking bullshit. It’s just an excuse to hide from my fears of taking on something bigger than I think I can handle. It’s the fear of succeeding and having that responsibility. It’s the fear of owning up to my potential and fucking doing something about it.
That’s how I have lived my life.
Is it any wonder that I am 9 years into a career as a financial planner/advisor and still make jack shit for a salary? How many financial professionals do you know that make less than $65,000 after almost a decade? I don’t know a single one.
I’ve had multiple opportunities to earn 6-figures if I only stepped up into a more prominent role. But I didn’t want to do that. I chose to stay in my comfort zone instead.
I’ve been limiting my own success my entire life.
I could easily blame it on the trauma of my parents divorce when I was 6 or on being so dorky that I couldn’t get a date until I was well out of high school.
I could blame it on the fact that I was bullied throughout middle school and would spend my night lying in my bed in total fear of the next day or on the fact that I almost didn’t graduate high school because I refused to speak in front of my class as part of my final exam because I was so insecure.
Well, it’s all just a story I’ve been telling myself for years. I’m not good enough. I’m not worthy of success. Why would anyone care what I have to say?
It’s sad to think I’ve never really owned up to any of this. Until right now.
Creating A New Story
I want to live a truly exceptional life and make a difference in others lives. But how can I do those things when the important things in my life are not working? I can’t.
And maybe I would have continued down this path for the rest of my life; living life on the lowest common denominator. But something happened a year ago. I started this blog. And people came.
And they cared.
What started out as a a blog about quitting my job has evolved into something much more. It’s about being part of something bigger than me. It’s about being able to reach thousands of people who understand and can resonate with what I’m going through. And I’m hooked. I love blogging and all that it entails. It’s become a very strong passion for me, but as you have seen here, sometimes passion isn’t enough.
And that’s where I have my dilemma.
It’s the line between business and hobby. It’s the line between creating and inaction. It’s the line between passion and fear.
The Wall
Two weeks ago, I was ready to start rolling with my business. I was all set to start cranking out niche sites, selling services on Fiverr, writing eBooks, creating a JV product, and attempting to finally make some damn money.
And I was working on those things. But in the process of self discovery, I realized some things about myself that stopped me from moving forward with all of that. Shocker, I know…
I’ve had to ask myself some very significant questions and have answered them as well. And not just about this blog, but about my life. I’ve come to understand a few hard truths about why I am where I am in my life. I’ve also made some decisions that will change my life for the (much) better.
And though I’ve learned a great deal about myself recently through my reading, thinking, writing, talking with people, and completing self-help exercises, I still feel like there’s something missing.
I feel like there is a huge gaping void in my life and nothing I’ve done in my life so far has filled it.
It’s like a greater force is holding me back from having a clear vision of my future, from attaining success and financial security, and from realizing my happiness.
You’re probably saying to yourselfย “it’s just you, stupid!” and I know that’s what it ultimately boils down to, but I still feel like my whole psyche is out of wack.
And I’ve felt this way for a very long time, much longer than just my time blogging.
One of my readers (and now friend), Steve Rice, and I spent a few hours on the phone a few nights ago. He had some great insights as to what he felt I was going through and what really struck a chord with me was when he said “it’s like you are a drag race car with a parachute attached to the end of it. There is resistance slowing you way down”. And that’s exactly how I feel.
I’ve never pinpointed why I feel this way or what could be causing it and have always assumed it would just go away. Well, it hasn’t.
And I know now that it won’t go away on its own.
I mean, how can we create our best work if there are deep underlying reasons in our subconscious that are sabotaging our progress?
So this is where my head has been. Instead of focusing on building a business here, I have been deciding how to approach all of this and find a solution.
Yoda Speaks…
Well, thanks to my friend Marcus, who I have somewhat of a Yoda-Luke relationship with, and who sent me a very well timed email the other day, I finally “got it”.
He said “I think you’re biggest problem is that you’re off spiritually and emotionally, which affects your mental well-being.
It’s my guess you’ve had inklings, maybe even strong ones, to get your spiritual and emotional life back in order. But yet you have not heeded the promptings. And when you don’t heed promptings….inspiration goes out the door.
And everything else suffers.
And action become stagnant.
Your 9-5 job is a ‘small’ problem in your life compared to your marriage and the frustration you have because of it.
If I were you, instead of reading another book, I’d serve your wife. I’d also get back to your spiritual roots. And I’d make these changes permanent. Once you do this, everything else will fall into place.
If you serve your wife, you’ll find the love for her you’re looking for. She’ll find it for you too. Don’t worry about what she can fix or do better, that will happen once you change.
I don’t feel you’re going to have a business thrive until you’re more in balance. It’s practically impossible.
I read your stuff and sense your anger in it…with ‘life’ in general. I could tell how unhappy you were at home just by reading your blog, which is supposed to be more about your unhappiness with work. I say that because often times your writings come across as ‘angry’. The negativity oozes out onto the page.
But anger is not a business model. Sadness is not a business model. We live in tough times and people want to be uplifted. You, me, all of us….be it business, personal, whatever. That’s what needs to ooze out of you.”
Wow!
This just makes so much sense to me. When he mentioned that it’s almost impossible to have a successful business until I am more in balance, it really hit me between the eyes. Actually it was more like a kick in the nuts…
What comes to mind is the Law of Attraction,which states that we attract into our lives what we put out there in terms of our thoughts and energy. My life is a gigantic ball of stress, uncertainty, and unhappiness served with a side of poor relationships and even worse communication.
Is it any wonder I am where I am right now?
Lost
The reason I often feel lost, desperate, and unconnected is because I am lacking in the most important parts of my life: My marriage and my faith. Both areas have been woefully neglected for years and it’s killing me slowly.
I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised by my unhappiness given all the discord in my life. If I’m going to truly create an extraordinary life, I have to focus on what matters the most.
And it’s for this reason that I have chosen to play a bigger game. I have chosen to pursue something much bigger than writing eBooks or doing affiliate marketing.
It’s about changing lives. Mine and yours.
That’s A Lot Of Stuff …..
Holy shit this was another deep (and long) post. With the direction I am taking this blog, I feel it’s important to share what’s really going on with me. And now you know some of what’s been on my mind..
I would have to pay a therapist $250 bucks to listen to all of this, but I got to do it for free here! Hopefully you haven’t tuned out..
As much as I’d like to continue this post, I think it’s best to save the rest for my next post, which will be about my plans, ideas, and what lies ahead for me and ETG…
I’m very interested (and a little nervous) to hear your thoughts on this, so please leave a comment for me!
And for those of you who got the movie reference, no I’m not going to shoot up a Whammy Burger…

Peggy Chirico
I have been following your posts for a while, but this is my first comment. I think that money messes up everyone’s priorities. When you find something that you are driven to do, regardless of whether you make money, that you will be able to find fulfillment. I’m not saying you can’t make money at it, but it can’t be your focus. It’s what leads people from one unsatisfying job to another. If you take money out of the equation, your priorities will become clearer. Best of luck.
Steve
Hi there Peggy,
I totally agree that money clouds our priorities. When I start thinking about how I can make money and what I have to do to create income, I start getting anxious. I’m focusing on the big picture right now and trying to create a business around what I love and what I feel will really help people. Statistics show that there is a good chance I will fail, but I really don’t see that happening.
I’m following my passion, my heart, and my purpose and even if I don’t make any money, it’s going to be worth it. I’ll just need to figure out another way to quit my job ๐
Garrett Brown
This is my first comment. I’ve been following your progress for just a short time. Steve Rice actually recommended your blog to me after I voiced some frustrations on my blog. I applaud your transparency and your courage to share your struggles with so many. I can’t relate to the details of your resistance (I’m single and sort of a starving artist), but thematically I’m in the same boat as you, brother. I agree with what you posted above. Spiritual and emotional health is priority number one. Keep it up and keep us in the loop. Rooting for you!
Steve
Hey Garrett,
Thanks for taking the time to leave me a comment, I appreciate it.
Steve is a great guy and we had a wonderful conversation a few days ago.
I’m trying to open myself up and let down my guard and I think if I’m ever going to be successful here, it’s so important to do that.
I didn’t enjoy posting that personal stuff about myself and very few people even know about those things. But I’m bettering myself and I think this will help me get there.
My spirituality has gone by the wayside over the last few years and I see how powerful it can be and I want that! It’s not going to be easy to try and reconnect with that part of me, but I have to try.
Steve Rice
Hey there, Garrett! Was so happily surprised to see you here. Had forgotten I’d recommended Steve’s blog. He’s real…good stuff.
I’m really excited to see what opens up for you both. You’re both great friends!
Ruth - The Freelance Writing Blog
Well, my friend, you didn’t disappoint. Great post. You are a wonderful and engaging writer.
And Marcus is right. Foundational change before professional change.
Obviously, you need to embark on your own spiritual and emotional journey (and it’s not a journey that ever ends, by the way). But I highly recommend Ashtanga yoga as part of the mix. It changed my life; my marriage; my outlook; my career…everything.
I’m excited for you. It seems that you are really at a turning point. How does your wife feel about these revelations? I can only imagine that she is also excited…and perhaps relieved?
Steve
Hi Ruth,
Thanks for the kind words, this was a very hard post to write. I have so many thoughts, ideas, and plans mixed with even more feelings, emotions, and fears. Given all that, it’s hard to articulate what I want to say in a post. I’m just trying to be open with people about where I am because if I am ever going to help them, I feel like I need to be completely honest.
As far as the yoga, I’m not sure I’m up for that! I’ve tried it in the past and really struggled with the slowness and relaxation of it all. I guess you would say that’s exactly why I need it! Who knows, I won’t say I’ll never do it:)
My wife is happy but guarded.She is not familiar with this whole world (blogosphere) and is naturally leery of what I say here. She has seen changes in me recently but we have a long way to go to get back on track…
Who knows, maybe I’ll have her write a post here..wouldn’t that be interesting?!?
Ruth - The Freelance Writing Blog
I vote for a guest post from your wife!!!!! I can edit it for her if she likes ๐
Just for the record, Ashtanga yoga (which is a very traditional kind of yoga) is arguably the most challenging, most fluid and demanding physical activity that I have ever undertaken. It is not relaxing whatsoever. And it is not slow – it is paced to your breath.
It is indeed a moving meditation, but the idea is to find equanimity and focus within the context of physical exertion, pain, discomfort, etc. It’s very transformative, in every sense. I am absolutely dripping with sweat at the end of my practice.
That said…it’s definitely not for everyone.
Steve
Ruth,
Not sure if she would be willing to write one, and I haven’t mentioned it to her yet…..
Hmmm..something not relaxing and extremely physically demanding. Sign me up ๐
I’ll have to look it up or maybe watch a YouTube video of it.. Who knows, I may love it!
Marcus Sheridan-The Sales Lion
Steve, I’ve already said enough, but I wanted you to know I’m proud of you for posting this, and the progress you’re making.
Although it may not feel like it, you really are moving in the right direction.
I believe in you and your worth bud. Keep going.
Marcus
Steve
Thank you my friend. I too feel like I am moving in the right direction although it’s very uncomfortable. I suppose that’s a good thing though!
I appreciate all your thoughtfulness and advice and I’m looking forward to meeting up soon!!
Jill
Good for you Steve! Reading this post made me think of your interview with Penelope Trunk – when she talked about looking at some whose LIFESTYLE that you want – rather than their success or money. To move your focus to your wife, family and yourself is totally the right thing to do. If you are wanting to ‘end the grind’ in order to be able to enjoy your life and time with your family, then START NOW!
I listen to Anthony Robbins CDs sometimes for motivation – and the reminder that you can change your life in an instant – by changing your mindset and the way you look at things. You can choose to be happy. Start living the life you want to live now.
Change comes from within you and your attitude and focus! Once you start being the person you want to be – and know you can be, then it will make everything else so much easier!
I look forward to your next post with your plans!!
Steve
Hi Jill,
I did take some of Penelope’s advice and also listened to my heart. Without a strong marriage or the support of my wife, the rest is just noise. My focus is shifting from being a miserable asshole who complains about his job all the time to focusing my energy on making my marriage better. I know life will get better when things at home are better. It’s not about the job, it’s about family.
I too am a believer in being able to change the outcome of your life just by changing your thoughts and attitude. I just haven’t done it. It’s amazing how hard it can be to breakout of a routine, regardless of how shitty it is…
David
I’m here reading this and hoping the best for you.
I am in pretty much the same general position as you right now (even though our lives probably look extremely different) and I respect what you’re doing here. Since the Trunk incident, your posts have become so much more authentic. You are writing about the real problems in your life now.
As you bring these real issues into your awareness, you will begin to find the answers you need. I’m very confident of that. Thanks Steve.
Steve
Hey David,
First off, I have apologize for not being as good a friend to you as you have been for me. You’ve been an important part of my blog (my life) for a long while and I appreciate all the honest and helpful feedback you’ve given me.
I too feel like I am writing more from the heart instead of from anger. I have always written with passion but now I feel like I’m being more open with everyone and that’s a very liberating feeling.
It was very uncomfortable for me to even share my income during the interview and I realized the message I was sending out wasn’t what I wanted. I want people to see themselves in me and create a better life for themselves because of what I am going through.
I’d love to chat some time to hear about the issues you are dealing with right now.
David
Hey Steve, you know an apology is not necessary. I got your e-mail, I’ll get back to you. Thanks.
John Garrett
Steve I have to say I’m not sure if I would have the courage to post something like this, so much respect, man!
The biggest thing here is I honestly think you’ve beaten the worst part, which was living in denial. I still see people who are unhappy but they think it’s all somebody else’s fault and they’re waiting for another somebody to come and fix it.
This viewpoint is something you can’t change for someone, they have to realize it themselves. At least you KNOW you have to step up and change the direction of your life YOURSELF and stop waiting.
I have a feeling a year from now we’re going to be looking back on this particular spate of posts and thinking “that’s where it all started!”
Keep going man, it’s like that Alanis Morrisette song, the only way out is through…
Steve
Hey John,
Yea, it was a hard post to write and I laid a lot of personal stuff out there, but I think it will help get my message out. With the direction that my life will be going, I want to be open about where I came from and what makes me tick.
It’s so true, I have been in denial for a long time. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of me and although I still have a long and difficult journey ahead, I feel so much better about where I’m headed.
I can only hope that we’ll look back on this time as the beginning of something great! Now I have to make it happen!!
Lis Sowerbutts
The one caution I would have – is that if you wife doesn’t know and approve of this level of transparency – you may want to tell her ASAP! Seriously the one person’s privacy I respect on the Internet – is my partner’s (we don’t share a surname) – you won’t even find his first name on anything I have ever written.
It sounds to me that money isn’t your main driving force – otherwise you would have had it by now – as you say – financial planners do tend to do quite well.
You are also right that you do an awful lot more navel gazing as a self-employed business owner , than what you do as a employee!
So much of this stuff is about the mind. I dismissed the “believe it and they will come” crap which The Secret and its many pretenders made popular.
But I am just about convinced that if you YOU don’t believe that you will be a success and you know what that success looks like – then you will never get there – because you just won’t have the commitment to do the hard work.
My success is quite simple: it would be $5k/month in income from websites and books. That would mean financial freedom for my partner (he wouldn’t have to work). The money in itself – isn’t important – its his freedom that is.
Also I learned a good trick today – write down some statements about what you want your life to be like: write them in the present tense: e.g. I AM a successful writer selling X books a month. Repeat them out loud – 3 times a day for a month.
At the end of the month you won’t have achieved those goals – but you may well have achieved a mindset change which makes those goals possible
Steve
Lis,
That’s a very valid concern and we have spoken about this. I’m definitely more comfortable being open and personal than she is and communication will be the key here. I have no problems being very open about what’s going on in my life, but of course I have to respect her need to privacy. There’s a fine line there and I’m really trying not to cross it.
I think I was in my 4th or 5th year as a financial advisor when I realized that I wasn’t motivated by money. It’s funny because I always thought I was. As much as I want the financial security of being wealthy, it doesn’t get me out of bed or inspire me. It’s giving people unconditional help that really moves me and gets me feeling alive.
I think about what my life would look like if I were “successful” and it gets my heart racing. It’s not that having anything in particular is inspiring but rather the complete freedom over my time. I’m often taken to a place in my mind where I am sitting with my wife on a rooftop bar in Boulder, Colorado. It’s my favorite place I’ve ever been to and it somewhere I feel like I need to be again. Someday….
I could easily quantify my needs for financial success by just putting a number there, but I don’t look at it like that. If I netted out at least $5,000 per month consistently through my online business and personal training, I could quit my job. That’s all there is to it. I could just start creating products, services, and anything else to make money but that’s not what I want to do.
I’ve spent enough of my life doing things I don’t want to. Why add another one? Yes, it would get me out of my shitty job, but I then have created yet another job. I want to love what I do and that’s why I have taken so long trying to figure it all out.
As for goal setting, I also believe writing them down as already been achieved is the best way to see them to fruition.
Thanks for this ๐
Hector Avellaneda
Steve – what’s going on buddy!
Listen, I know exactly where your frustrations come from. I definitely agree with everything that Marcus shared with you in his email. He is right. sometimes your writings do come off a bit angry and resentful and as you mentioned, with a sense of entitlement.
I know exactly where you are coming from bro, because I did have a pretty rough upbringing. Even though that was the case however, I did what I had to do academically and excelled to become successful in my own right. Then, I graduated from college and felt as if the world had betrayed me. I felt that I deserved better, I felt I deserved more and I felt like I was’t getting it.
Here are a few things I’ve underwent and learned from that I think can help you.
1) As a recent college grad deep in debt and with a fiance (now my wife) it was hard to dedicate as much time to her as to my entrepreneurial venture and have her understand what it was that I was doing. I write an article about this a while in my quest to find an answer to this problem and I think it can help you, help your wife understand what it is that you are doing – http://www.internetentrepreneurconnection.com/spousal-support-as-an-internet-entrepreneur/ (hope you’re OK with me posting the link.
2) the second thing that really jumped out to me from your post was that you reference your frustrations with money and how you;re not making enough of it.
I’ll tell you that I had the very same problem but later realized that my frustration arose form the fact that I had a BAD RELATIONSHIP with money!
How can that be?
Well, it’s all a psychological thing. Growing up I was poor, we always struggled financially and there was definitely a sense of ‘lack of things’ for me as a child.
I learned that this was a subconscious conditioning that I had held on to even now into adulthood. Even though I wanted to make more money and thought I deserved more I would subconsciously create the right environment so that I would fail, feel resentful and then complain about how I was not making enough.
It sounds funny but it is very real!
11/12 of everything we do comes from our subconscious mind. This, therefore, is the dominant program (or reality) from which our mind operates and functions on a day to day basis.
The problem here arises in that we are holding on to thoughts of fear, lack and scarcity when it comes to money that we may have experienced in past life events.
HERE IS WHAT YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND:
When you want to make more money but your subconscious mind is operating from a dominant program of fear, lack and scarcity, there is an obvious disparity and contradiction in thought process. Psychologists call this cognitive dissonance.
To fix this disparity in the thought process, the subconscious mind does what is easiest and in accordance with your dominant operating program – it gets rid of your objectives and creates the very same obstacles you face so that you can stay stuck in fear, lack and scarcity.
Those feelings are right in line with what your reality and therefore your subconscious is now happy.
Why do you think so many people fit their incomes to meet their current reality’s?
Again, I agree with everything that Marcus mentioned above but I would also encourage you to statt training and reconditioning you subconscious mind to start operating from a new dominant program.
The great news is that you can train your subconscious to believe anything you want it to believe.
Let’s have a chat sometime if you want to talk more about this and what I did to train my subconscious mind to have a good relationship with money and to operate from prosperity and abundance.
I hope this makes sense.
Steve
Hector, my friend!
Of all the things you shared with me here, one thing jumped off the page! It’s my relationship with money! I literally feel like I have an inverse relationship with it. It’s like I’m not meant to have any. Sounds crazy, but I feel like I repel it.
I know subconsciously I don’t feel worthy to make more money and that I will just squander it away anyway. I can’t shake that feeling either and when you mention that it’s something that needs to be trained in subconscious, it makes me feel more at ease. I mean, I don’t want to feel like this anymore. I want to earn more for my family and create wealth. It can’t happen with my current mindset.
Let’s chat sometime, I’d love to hear more about this…
Jacq
Steve, Jerrold Mundis wrote a book years ago called “Earn What You Deserve.” It was a big help to me way back when – in the days when this was the only resource out there – to get out of this mindset. It is extremely common to be this way when you value people and relationships vs. cash. These days I like both. ๐
I would also look into Barbara Stanny’s work on underearning: http://www.forbes.com/sites/barbarastanny/2011/10/03/7-signs-youre-an-underearner/
She’s written a couple of books which are quite good. Best of luck to you.
Steve
Hi Jacq,
I’ve heard of Jerrold’s book and will have to check it out. It sounds right up my alley!
Thanks for the suggestions ๐
Stephen Smith
Another good post, very useful to your readers and probably even more useful for you. My wife said something yesterday that really hit me (BTW I resigned from my job as a restaurant manager as of Sept 8th and have been freelancing since then) in between the eyes. She said “Thank you for spending the day with me”.
It was her only full day off from work this week and I usually spend 8 to 14 hours a day in my office or out meeting clients. But when she gets a day off, I take one too. What makes her happy makes me happy. And then when she is at work (or asleep early in the morning like this) I can pursue my other passions. Or “work” if you want to call it that.
Best regards,
S
Steve
Stephen,
First off, congratulation on quitting your job in order to pursue your passion. I love reading that.
That must be a great feeling when you have the control over your time to spend your days as you choose. I’m assuming your wife was on board with the big move and that’s so important.
I’ll be right there with you one day….
Stephen Smith
Ooops. Hit the wrong “reply” button. BTW have you read “Uncertainty” yet?
Steve
I have not read it. Who’s the author? I’ve been taking my readers suggestions on good books and have been going through 2 or 3 per week!!
Stephen Smith
The Author is Jonathan Fields, I wrote a review here http://blog.incontextmultimedia.com/2011/10/uncertainty-a-book-review-and-a-philosophy-of-work/
Steve
Thanks Stephen. That’s interesting because Jonathan was one of the last Podcast interviews I did before I stopped posting them. I spoke with him the week of his book launch….
Chloe
Steve, I’m proud of you. I have a lot more to say, but I have to get ready for my day job. I’m also looking for the peace that is available today instead of the peace I’ll have someday when everything “falls into place”.
You and I are a lot alike.
Chloe
Stephen Smith
Good morning, Oh she certainly was. We cut back on some things and then saved up enough for two months worth of bills. Then around Sept 14th or so I just dove back in.
I can give you some pointers if you want. E-mail me…
And have a great weekend.
Deeone
Hey bud!
I first want to tell you, for whatever it’s worth, that I too am very proud of you, Steve. I also want to apologize for however long this comment will be. (you know me by now, if there’s something I want to say, it could be called a post):D
I have seen the growth that has been occurring in you since we first crossed paths some months ago. Being that I write the type of blog that I write, I think that the most powerful thing that can come from our blogging experience is personal growth.
So many bloggers are more concerned about how to tell someone else how to go about doing things, that they often forget to tell their readers how they’ve grown from doing what it is they are telling others to do. It’s a cycle that I try my damnest not to become apart of.
I appreciate you sharing your fears, your shortcomings, the issues of your past, that I honestly can relate too. I didn’t have the best middle or high school life as well. There were a few adults in my life back then that I’m sure were banking on the fact that I wouldn’t graduate either. However, the past is in the past for a reason. To be able for us to say that we made it through that, and “YES, We both did!”
Here’s the thing about people like us, my friend. We are a rarity, we hate conformity, just as much as we hate being comfortable in any situation. It’s not enough for us to settle for what we have, we want it all, and we want it now dammit! That drive is good, but it’s also a curse that often shoots us in our pinky toes. ๐
The good that comes out of it, is that we rarely ever settle for being comfortable and we will do what’s necessary to break free of that type of comfort. We see what we want and we go after it. I think it’s partly because for so long we were told that we couldn’t have it in the first place. So that drives us, sometimes to a fault. Hence, the curse.
The curse of it is we rarely ever take the time to consider what we do have, and just be thankful for that.
If we ever managed to control the drive and the curse, so that they are able to abide together peacefully within us; we’d be a serious force to be reckoned with here on this planet. It’s all about growth though; it’s about us becoming aware of our strengths and weaknesses and using them to better ourselves. Accepting the fact that because we’re not where we want to be right now, doesn’t mean that we won’t get there. Just keep pushing forward, and taking care of those that are there in our lives supporting us. Whether you see the support or not. The fact that your wife is still there says a lot, man. I promise you.
You’ve inspired me this morning, Steve. I’ve been inspired to tap even the more into making the drive and the curse work better for me in my life.
We all fall, my friend, it’s those that stay there that fail. Keep moving forward, my friend. You’re closer than you think you are to being where you need to be. ๐
Steve
Deeone, my man!
You are the comment master dude! I might have to put all your comments into an eBook and sell it ๐
“We want it all” is spot on. I am so strongly opposed for settling that it angers me to the point of tears. Yet I have been doing it for many years. Is it any wonder I have so much built up resentment and frustration?
You and I are a lot alike and I’ve learned some things about myself from watching you.
You make another excellent point in saying that we rarely take the time to appreciate what we do have. So true. I have a wonderful life by many peoples standards, but I fail to see all that I have. All I have seen is what I don’t have and what I want my life to look like.
I could easily be the man who is sitting on his death bed still having those same thoughts. “what could have been”…that thought really bothers me and keep me up at night. Yet, I still took no action.
Change is here my friend. And not just for me, but I see it for you as well!
And as far as inspiring you, that made my day ๐
Deeone
Thanks for the kind words and encouragement, my friend. ๐ it means a lot coming from you, as well. Here’s something that I have written down and I look at it daily as a reminder that helps me out, and maybe it will do the same for you too.
“I have spent too much time on what was taken from me (or that I don’t have at the moment) and not enough time on what was given.”
I forget who actually said it, but when I first heard those words it came alive in my spirit man. It spoke to me in ways that I can’t even begin to describe.
I hope it does the same for you as well. Cheers bud!
Hope you’re having a most awesome week! ๐
Steve
Great inspiration there my man! That’s the type of positivity I need in my life..
Deeone
You’ve got it buddy! Enjoyed the convo, for sure!
Joe @ Not Your Average Joe
Steve, lots of folks feel exactly the way you’re feeling at one time or another. I give you kudos here for being this transparent. It would be difficult for me to hit “publish” with this type of post. This brought to mind a Vince Lombardi quote that instructed his players to bring order to their lives by ranking of importance: Your God, your family, and the Green Bay Packers. Now, not sure if you’re a Packers fan, but putting your faith and your family (wife) before everything else should bring peace to other aspects of your life.
This is “old school” thinking, but that’s what makes it good. You are indeed on the right track. Obviously, your readers wish you nothing but the best of luck. You can do it. Keep pursuing the passion while you have a job. Yes, it may take years for you to make your mark. Many of the greats do.
Steve
Hey Joe,
No lie, it was very hard to hit that publish button and I felt really nervous afterwards. It’s funny because there were no comments for a while and I was thinking to myself “I’ve gone too far here. I’ve shared too much and people don’t really want to hear it”. I can’t remember where I heard it, but someone said that you know when you have a really special post when you’re scared shitless to publish it.
For here on out, it’s family and God first and I have to trust that I will find my way. And I certainly don’t mind putting in the years as long as I feel I’m doing the right thing.
And by the way, I grew up in New Hampshire, so I’m a Patriots fan, baby!!
Jacq
Penelope herself wrote that about being scared to hit publish. ๐
Aaron
Great stuff stuff Steve. Bold transparency is always a bit uncomfortable – for you and for your readers but it pushes us out into freedom. You are a lucky man to have a friend like Marcus who will risk shooting straight and who knows you well enough to discern what you need. And again you have shown your character by responding to hard words with humility and grace. No advice from me.
Steve
Aaron,
This post was more personal that any other post I’ve written and it was a tough one to publish. With the direction I see myself (and my blog) going in, I think it’s important to be forthcoming about my fears, insecurities, and my struggles. Marcus has indeed been a good friend and I truly value his opinions and advice.
15 years ago I was so from humility it was scary. I’ve come a long way in terms of appreciating things and people and am really grateful to have so many friends willing to take part in my journey.
Adrienne
Congratulations Steve, you’ve had a huge aha moment.
I’m so happy it started with Marcus’ email and you’re realization that what you bring into your life, you get more of. That is so very true and I really believe that you have to work on you first. Forget about the business plans, forget about making money online, forget about escaping your day job. Right now the most important thing you can do is work on you. Until you do that, you will just be wasting time my friend.
You will always come up with an excuse not to get started or not finish a project. Until you work on why you feel this way and what continues to hold you back, it’s all a mute point.
There is no way you can have success in the mindset that you are currently in. It’s just not going to happen so you are the most important thing right now.
You have so many people behind you, rooting for you and wanting you to succeed. In life Steve, it starts with your life. Your wife and son should come first period so until you get that fixed, everything should be second nature.
I think the world of you Steve and have no doubt you can work through this. Look at everyone who is here for you, screw the therapist. You have Marcus, Steve, me and I’m sure many others who are here to help you move forward. We have faith in you my friend and for once I also saw the anger leave this post and your true feelings showing up.
Okay, this could end up being a mini post so I’ll stop now. I think you get my point. Congratulations for taking that first major step. That’s really what I wanted to say.
I’m on your side and here for you too. ๐
~Adrienne
Steve
Hi Adrienne,
Your first paragraph says it all! Everything else is a waste of time until I work on me. And by working on me, I am working on the most important things in my life. My marriage and my daughters. I am doing them an injustice by being miserable and negative and as much as I’d like to snap my fingers and change it, I know I still have a lot of work to do.
To be honest, I am far from being clear about exactly what I want and still feel overwhelmed all the time. I know I can’t make progress until I get out of my mind rut and seem to be waiting for the answers to come to me. I do know that I need to make my family and my faith #1 and I truly feel like the rest will follow, but I still feel massive pressure to begin creating a business here.
As far as having a therapist, I’ve been very fortunate to have a number of people call me and offer their advice. It’s very humbling to have so many people take an interest in my story.
I know I write from anger most of the time and that’s because it’s the emotion that I have most frequently. It also fuels my posts. I just don’t want to be angry anymore…it’s so tiring and while it may make for interesting reading, it isn’t helping anyone.
Thanks again, you’re the best ๐
Beth
Steve, nice post! First step in self-discovery is realizing life just isn’t about you, dude! It’s bigger, much bigger. Marcus gave you some sound advice, which I whole-heartly second… balance is good! It brings order!
Best to you, I’ve got to subscribe now… I don’t want to miss out on the journey!
Beth ๐
Steve
Hi Beth,
It’s not something that I’ve really talked about on my blog, but I have been very selfish at home and it’s really affected my relationship with my wife. For the past year especially, it’s been about this blog and nothing else. I kept thinking that it will just take a few short years to get my business going here and then I will have more time for my family. Bad approach as you can see.
I know very little about how to balance my life and have been cursed/blessed with an “all or nothing” personality. I’m either all in or all out. Obviously I need to work on that and quickly..
Deacon Bradley
Hey Steve, Thanks for sharing this epic self-insight. I don’t have much to add, and coming from a complete stranger I doubt that it would be too helpful. I just wanted to offer a word of encouragement and vote of confidence that Yoda’s advice is very wise.
Steve
I really appreciate that Deacon. In my search for answers, I am learning a lot about myself and feel it’s important to share what’s really going on in my head and in my life. Marcus has been a good friend and a great source of wisdom for me and I’m lucky to have met him. It’s incredible all the amazing people we meet online. That’s one of the reasons I love this business so much!
Laura Rupp
I applaud you Steve for taking such a deep look at yourself and seeing how YOU can make things “fall into place” Maybe it didn’t happen the way you thought it would because you just never knew how personally involved you would have to be in the process! You are doing well, and becoming so much more clear. Even even though your job and things in your life have brought such disappointmnet and discord you wouldn’t be at this transition point without all of it. The desperation has forced you to go down a path you resisted for so long or just didn’t consider. It’s not easy, but it is worth the effort. You are willing, able, kind, and gracious in the pursuit of your goals and I truly wish you the best. Stay with it, keep on looking at yourself and at your “whys”- somehow you know what you are to become, you just have to uncover it!
Steve
Hi there Laura,
The thing is, I know that every decision I’ve made in my life has led me to where I am right now but I’ve failed at making better decisions that would change my life going forward. I have so been resisting change and growth for years, even though I have been miserable for the most part. Doesn’t make sense but I did it anyway.
Well, I’m putting all that behind me and moving forward for the first time in a long time.
Laura Rupp
Don’t feel too bad about how long it has taken Steve. A coach recently reminded me that resistance/self-conscious/shadow self/the saboteur is tenacious and very sneaky! I don’t think it’s a mistake the Steven Pressfield used the word “WAR” in the title of his book “The War of Art”.
Steve
Brad,
That’s exactly it. For the past year, it’s been all about my job. My job sucks, My job is killing me, My job is boring, etc.
In all reality it’s life that is the grind and our life is all a state of mind. “Thoughts are things” like Napolean Hill says. Our lives are what we think about all day long.
By the way, I did reach out to Darin and dig his site. I might just have to try my hand at online personal training…
By they way, we need to chat soon dude!
Jimmy
Steve,
You don’t seem to have any spiritual peace. There is a lot of blaming of the past you had. Have you really let go of the past? Your past can be like anchors to your vessel preventing you from sailing forth into your destiny. As long as you have not let go you are never going to make progress.
You need to use some techniques to release these past. Try EFT and NLP swish methods or get a qualified councilor to help with this.
Your purpose looks clear – you want to help people – that’s always a good starting point. I do think you have figured out what medium you want to use to achieve your purpose. Why aren’t you doing it yet? Don’t procrastinate too long. Do it and figure it out along the way.
Steve
Jimmy,
I haven’t let go of the past and it’s still causes me a lot of frustration. TO be honest, I don’t know how. I’ve looked into NLP a bit but have never done anything with it. Not sure if I can do it on my own. I’ve never really looked at it like my past was holding me back, but I’m sure it does have a lot to do with it.
I am clear that I want to help people and I want to provide hope and inspiration. I’m working on how I want to share my message right now. It’s a lot for me to think about.
I’m a HUGE procrastinator and it’s stunted the growth of my blog/business. I’m actually procrastinating right now answering comments when I should be working on my goals!!
Justin | Mazzastick
Hey Steve,
Once again, thanks again for putting yourself out there and telling it like it is.
Steve Rice is a cool dude.
I spent the first 9 months of my blog working on it full time and neglecting other aspects of my life as well. I had a plan though. It was too put everything that I have into my blog for the first year and then gradually be able to only have to invest an hour or two a day after that.
That made it easy for me to put other things on the back burner but I have to remember that they are there so they don’t burn.
Steve
Justin,
While that is great in theory, how many people actually do it? After 1 year of working on my blog like a madman, I still have to put just as much time in it (if not more) as before. What about you? Did you reach your goals? Are you able to work on it just a few hours a day?
Justin | Mazzastick
Yes I did. I planned out my whole blogging journey meticulously. I will reach my one year anniversary in January.
I never intended to blog for a living though, but rather as an additional income stream. My blog earns me money every month and I have been reducing the amount of time that I spend on it without losing any income.
This winter I will be able to work on it full time because my landscaping business will be closed. I will work on product creation and other income generating strategies.
You see, I only think in terms of success. Failure is not an option for me.
Scott
I have been reading your posts and commenting since I heard your Penelope interview. The more I read, the more that I think that you and I are very similar. I am 51 however and have the same thoughts as you.
I know that I am NOT too old to start this! I wrote my first post tonight since I heard that interview. I have not updated any of my other 5 non-money making sites.
I have been doing some serious sole searching myself. I think my issues are balance as yours and need to focus on ONE thing rather than suck at 6 different things. Then and only then try multiple things. Make sense?
It is amazing how one persons life who you have never met can help to change yours. That is what you have done for me. Thanks Steve. You have invested in my life and never knew it.
Maybe one of these days we can speak on the phone or Skype. Happiness to you brother.
Scott
Steve
Hi Scott,
This comment is very powerful and represents best thing about writing this blog. The ability to change someone’s life.
Getting comments or emails from people who are cheering me on or patting me on the back is great, because I seem to need that affirmation, but hearing someone say that their life has changed because of something I said or wrote is what it’s all about for me.
I’d live to chat with you sometime and learn more about you and your life. My Skype handle is stephen.r.roy
Talk with you soon
Scott Dudley
Hey Steve,
The title and image of this blog post kinda freaked me out as this movie (Falling Down) just popped into my head out of nowhere a few hours before reading this. It used to be my favourite movie back in the 90’s and I had a lot of flashbacks lol.
But back to the content of the post, I have to congratulate you on being so honest and real with your current state of mind. As you can see a lot of people relate to what your saying, including myself.
I think you may be a little hard on yourself, as most people are not even aware of these types of things and just keep cruising through life in dreamworld. You have the awareness and the vision.
I have dreams similar to yours, and I think it is just a matter of failing forward and taking action. Getting out of the comfort zone and pushing yourself is a great idea, as like they say “your comfort zone is your failure zone”.
This is my first visit to your blog, but not my last ๐
Steve
Scott,
That’s pretty freaky about the movie…
I’m glad to hear you can relate to what I am going though in my life. My goal is to truly turn my life around in all aspects and become a better father, husband, son, and all around person. In sharing my thoughts and progress (and set backs), I hope many people can see themselves in what I am going through and in turn, help themselves.
I know I am hard on myself and that’s ok with me. I’ve pissed away 20 years of my life doing shit I didn’t want to be doing and I’m resentful. I can only hold myself accountable for all the choices I’ve made to get me where I am now. But I’m not happy about it.
Now it’s time to forget all that shit and move on with my life…..
Jack@TheJackB
One of my favorite parts of blogging is using it to bring clarity to my thoughts, ideas and feelings. That is part of why I write for me first and everyone else second- the words are cathartic.
It has been a great way for me to gain a better understanding of myself. It sounds like you are on the path to getting things worked out in a fashion that works for you.
Give yourself some time- nothing changes over night and that is ok.
Steve
Jack,
I feel the same way. My thoughts really start coming together and I feel inspired to do great things when I write. And with my recent posts (and the comments), I’ve been learning many things about myself.
And while I do understand that changes like I am making will take time, maybe a great deal, I still feel the pressure to move forward quickly. It’s because I see my age (40) as a limiting factor in how time I have left here. I never really thought about it in my thirties, but now I think about my mortality all the time. I can hear the clock ticking on my lifespan and it scares me. I feel like I’ve wasted too many years doing things that were unimportant and/or unfulfilling and it’s like I have to catch up as fast as I can…
Amalia Giebitz
Steve,
I discovered your blog today because Chloe mentioned it in her blog post. I am writing this comment on the run, so I have to be brief. And I haven’t had time to read any other post. But my sense of it is that you and I have been on a similar path in recent days/months/years.
It seems obvious to me now that we need to balance our material progress with spiritual progress, but it isn’t easy. Every single moment we have to choose whether we pursue selfish or selfless interest. And we have to be conscious of that choice. It takes energy, a lot of it. And sometimes I get so tired.
It helps a lot to know that we are not alone. Human beings require companionship. We are not solitary beings. A Persian spiritual leader named `Abdul’Baha’ said, “Through association and meeting we find happiness and development, individual and collective.” He also said, “The supreme need of humanity is cooperation and reciprocity. The stronger the ties of fellowship and solidarity amongst men, the greater will be the power of constructiveness and accomplishment in all the planes of human activity.”
So thank you for sharing your heart honestly. Thank you to Chloe for mentioning her conversation with you so I could find this post. These are the ties of fellowship and solidarity that help us each progress in our pursuit of a better world.
Steve
Amalia,
Thanks for the visit, Chloe has got a great blog going..
You bring up some very interesting things. I’ve never really defined my action as either selfish or selfless, I just do what I feel is right (most of the time).
For me, taking time to think about my decisions, actions, and repercussions is very tiring. Even now as I’m starting to change some of my thoughts and attitude, I’m exhausted. Just staying in our comfort zones and going with the flow is so much easier, but there is no growth there.
Although I am an introvert and thrive on having solitary time, I also see the need for interaction and relationships. I believe that’s where our happiness lies; in the types of relationships we have. After all, when we are dying, will we be talking about all the great stuff we owned or rather about all the people we loved?
Steve Rice
How did I miss this post (especially when you gave me such a kind shout out?)
I’m glad that the drag racing/parachute analogy resonated with you. Forgot I’d said that.
I agree with Marcus, when you get reconnected spiritually (by this, I don’t necessarily mean religion…but congruent in your spirit) you will see amazing changes in your external circumstances.
One of my favorite books is the little classic by James Allen “As A Man Thinketh”…in the book, Allen states that it’s impossible for a man’s external world to remain unchanged when his internal world has transformed.
Unfortunately, most of us focus on the external (Like you have in your job) and fail to see that all these things…the marriage the job, etc are symptoms of what is happening on the inside.
I know you’re cracking through this difficult barrier, though. It’s like growing pains when you’re a teenager…the bones and muscles ache, but when the pain’s over, there is greater coordination and dexterity.
You’re on your way and I”m really proud of the hard work you’re dedicating to the process.
Steve
Hi Steve,
I actually got quite a bit from our chat a few weeks back. Your energy is contagious and I need it for sure!
I’m struggling with the spirituality aspect right now and have been focusing on other things. I know that that should become a priority, yet I still procrastinate on looking at it.
I read James Allen’s book years ago and I remember it having many great quotes. Time to read it again..
Thanks again for everything.
Steve Rice
Thanks so much. I am so encouraged that our chat connected with you.
I can understand the struggle with spirituality. I’ve been going through a personal renaissance in that area of my life over the past 5 or so years as well.
If you find yourself procrastinating, maybe set some baby steps. I would suggest finding a book or podcast or something that feels good to you and starting there.
If it feels good, you’ll be more inclined to do it. I would also encourage you to find resources that will support your mission to be more congruent (integrated). Once those pieces start coming together then the rest will be more apparent (ie if you should engage or re-engage a specific religion or belief system).
Another great little book (or audio book) which revolutionized my life, literally is “The Four Agreements” by don Miguel Ruiz. Also, his follow-up book, “The Mastery of Love” changed every relationship in which I engage. I listened to it on CD perhaps a hundred times as I was working…it really changed my perspective.
Keep up the great work! One baby step at a time! ๐
Hiten
Steve, this is a great post. I’m a firm believer that one cannot feel down for too long before things improve. Where there is down, up is not far away and vice versa.
Steve
Hiten,
To be honest, I’m not sure I agree with you. I’ve been feeling down for many years and it’s affected all areas of my life. Things didn’t improve because I didn’t change anything. They aren’t going to get better just by waiting it out..
I’ve dug myself a pretty deep hole in terms of my attitude and outlook on life. I have a long way to go to replace many bad habits with good ones. I’m optimistic though and have some great ideas for the future!
Keshav
(Damn I just saw this post. I don’t have time to reply BIG now. But I may lose track of replying back. So let me say something quick)
Steve – You are my hero. I see myself similar to your situation (referring to the job situation) in 10 years.
I’ve always wanted to say – “Man! Do something fast. I’m getting older”. But we all have to find our own way…
Fix one thing at a time – Marriage, Expenses (needs as Leo says), Writing, Business…..
Please read “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts” Gary D.Chapman OR like me while waiting for a train, just listen to the audio book (I can share mine). This will help a lot for your new project ๐
BTW why don’t you blog about the side projects which indirectly help your actual plan of quitting your job. Thinks like- How you made great improvements in your married life, Reducing your expenses to like a minimalist, love Leo for the ideas here (what more you are already a financial adviser. You must have great tips)
Daamn…must get back to work!
-Keshav
I definitely want that skype session ๐
Steve
Keshav,
The good news is that you can see yourself in my shoes in 10 years-now you need to stop that from happening! Do not allow yourself to be where I am right now.
I’ve read both books you are speaking of and am currently rereading The 5 Love Languages. There are a lot of deep issues at hand and just reading a book (or 20) isn’t the solution…
Given what’s happening in my personal life, I haven’t felt like writing lately. I really want to keep you all in the loop of what’s going on but I struggle with motivation when things are going poorly at home. This is where I need to just do it. In the past, I would let this totally derail me from what I’m doing, but I have to keep taking action regardless of my emotions…
Thanks again…
From Desire To Success
Hi Steve, new reader here…I have to say I admire you for posting such a personal article!
As someone who’s started my own business a few years ago, after losing everything, I can relate to a lot of what you wrote.
It has been a very stressful time for my wife and I, but I believe for me that losing everything was the best thing that ever happened to me!
It put me in a situation to quit my job after 15 years, invent a product (now patented), start doing webdesign (which has become a passion), and start a couple blogs, one of which I truly enjoy about motivation.
I understand the feeling of entitlement…I think it’s pretty common, especially in this country, but as you know, it’s a dead-end way to think.
Hang in there, keep working hard and above all, keep working on yourself and you will get there.
I can finally say for the first time in my life that I am free in every way and my life is better than it’s ever been!
I look forward to reading more!
Tony
Steve
Tony,
First off, thanks for reading. I appreciate it.
Over the years, I’ve often thought it would take some kind of catastrophic event for me to get off my ass and do something else. And although I have not lost everything as you have, I have had enough of living a mediocre existence. I’m sorry to hear that you had to go through something like that, but it sounds like it being a blessing.
It’s inspiring to hear stories like yours and to know that you were able to go from zero to actually truly enjoying your life!
By the way, what did you invent?
From Desire To Success
Hey Steve,
Thanks for your reply. It was a blessing, the best thing that ever happened. Luckily, all of the “self-help” books I was reading helped me stay positive, happy, and better yet, helped me decide that I would find a way out of this doing what I wanted.
You shouldn’t have to lose everything to make certain realizations…and it sounds like you’re making them now, which is a good thing.
I invented the first universal locking adapter for HDMI Cables (awarded a US patent this year)…some of our clients are major medical manufacturers, resort hotels (some of the top hotels in Vegas), audio/video manufacturers, amazon.com and do-it-yourselfers. During the process, I couldn’t afford to hire a web-designer, so I learned how to do it myself, and that’s what kept me going until my product took off…now i enjoy doing them both :).
Best of luck, i’ll definitely check out more of your articles
Steve
That’s pretty incredible stuff! It sounds like your product is quite successful as well.
Thanks again for sharing, it’s definitely motivating to see someone rise up and do big things after experience such a tremendous low.
Keep it up man!
From Desire To Success
Well, not where I want or need to be yet, but definitely in the right direction! Hoping one day to inspire others!
Keep up the great work and you’ll find your breakthrough!
Financial Samurai
Mate, I donno what the exact message of this post was. Is it fear?
My comment is that there’s more money out there, and more things one can do than ever before.
Life is easy if we’re born in America. We are so blessed.
Sam
Steve
Hey Sam,
The post was about calling myself out on some bullshit excuses on why I can’t do things. It was also about being open to change and embracing what’s really important to me.
I know there is unlimited opportunity for me (and everyone else here). I just need to figure out how to find it….
Financial Samurai
Got it. I have a strong belief that everything is rational.
Only until your situation bothers you enough will you be motivated to change. IF not, then it just means you enjoy your situation enough to not change.
Go to India and you will see poverty all around. The US is like the Four Seasons comparatively!
Financial Samurai
Another thing to think about is rationality. Everything is rational.
You deserve exactly what you are getting. The straight A student who went to a top school who works hard deserves that job. The B student who messed around a lot and didn’t take thing seriously deserves that business he started etc.
Jayne Kopp
Hey Steve, as you may (or may not know) I just returned from Cabo. I received your email while there but had to leave a response on Skype due to ‘funny’ server things going on.
In any event, this is a really good post and frankly I think you’ve got it nailed.
I don’t know if you know or not… but the business I promote is a personal development program.
There is a disc on relationships that is so ‘on the mark’ … I just need to find a way to get the audio to you. Any suggestions?
It states very clearly that couples who have solid relationships go much further success wise as they operate as a family unit, congruent with one and other.
I did have the numbers… but I think a strong relationship is like having a hundred and fifteen thousand dollar raise while divorce and family difficulties is like taking a $250,000 loss. (thats when you put the power of relationships in comparison to a dollar figure.
I do believe that having a stronger relationship and re-kindling with your wife will boost you to the point that your days become much happier… which will do the world of good for your health and inspiration.
Of course God comes first as well (for obvious reasons) but I believe He wants us to be happy… so when you’re happy… He’ll be happy! ๐
I am able to put this into an audio file but need a way to get it to you. I am sure you will enjoy it and glean some great direction.
let me know what you think. This was a great and touching post.