You’re Full Of Shit (And I’m The Shit Remover)
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So there you are, pretending to work like a good employee and counting down the hours until the end of the day. It’s only Tuesday morning and you’re already bored to tears. And as you think about the rest of the week and how you would like to be doing something else, anything else, you take deep breath and smile.
You smile because you call into your imagination your big dreams of some day working for yourself and how awesome it’s going to be. “My day is coming” you tell yourself as you feel the weight of your high stress job lifted from your shoulders for a brief moment.
And as you quietly settle back into working on your TPS reports, you forget all about your dreams…
The Curse of Daydreaming
In my 11 years working as a financial advisor, this is exactly how I managed to get through my days. Every single day, there would be a time (or many times) when I would “check out” mentally and would be instantly transported to another place. In that moment I would be hiking up Flagstaff Mountain in Boulder, Colorado or sitting out on my patio overlooking the Pacific Ocean tapping away on my laptop.
Evey day without fail, I would slip out of my office and roam the downtown streets with one thing on my mind: quitting and doing something that fulfilled me.
I took solace in those walks and felt recharged after each one. I would sit back at my desk, open up those damned spreadsheets and with a renewed sense of energy, get back to work, because I knew that someday I would quit.
And while this habit literally saved me from walking into my boss’s office and telling him to fuck off on numerous occasions, it also served as a roadblock in the path of me actually doing anything about it.
Because my “someday” turned into over a decade of soul crushingly boring work.
Postponing Until Death?
The problem is that most of us, while having great intentions of one day doing work we love and waking up happy each morning, will never act upon our dreams.
We will continue to punch the time clock and wait patiently until the day comes that we’re able to retire. We will constantly tell ourselves that when things get better, we save that extra money, we pay off those bills, etc, that we will make a change.
We won’t.
That time never comes because there is always something else to fill that empty slot. Our kid’s sports, car payments, vacations, unexpected bills and a hundred other things will get in our way.
And it pisses me off to hear excuse after excuse as to why someone “can’t” make a change. I’ve said it a million times (and actually got a tattoo of it) that life is so fucking short. Your “some day” is going to be written on your tombstone because you will die without ever having done what you really wanted.
And it call comes down to us being full of shit. We tell ourselves that things will change, but it’sĀ facade. Deep down we know that we won’t because our fears are too strong.
Seriously, Are You Full Of Shit?
Being full of shit doesn’t make you a bad person or incapable of making changes.Ā A few years ago I called bullshit on myself because I was all talk and nada action.
And since I’ve taken great strides to improve my own life and have learned a great deal about creating lasting change, I feel I’m qualified to offer my advice to others.
And I want to ask you the following question: For those of you who are unhappy with your current job and/or relationship:
Are you planning on doing what you’re currently doing for the next 30-40 years?
And there are 2 distinct types of people here:
- The person who says “yes”. If this is their answer, I give them a look of incredulous shock and and wish them good luck on living out a sub par existence. There is little hope for this person. They have already settled for what life has given them, accepted their fate as corporate pawn, and are unwilling to make the effort to get more from life.
- The person who says “no”. When they say this, and most people do, it’s usually bullshit. It’s bullshit because there are tens of millions of unhappy employees who are doing zero about their situation. Nobody in their right mind will tell you that they don’t want more from life. Everyone has hopes and dreams, experiences they want to have, and memories they want to create.
For those of you who are already working towards ending you grind, I applaud you. Keep at it and don’t stop until you get what you’re looking for. If you aren’t, then I can’t urge you enough to start. Time slips by so quickly and you will regret not having started sooner, I promise you.
My goal with my blog and business is to help you cut through your bullshit reasons as to why you can’t and get you focused on how you can. In essence, a bullshit remover.
Enter The Shit Remover!
I’ve eluded it to a few times, but I’m preparing to launch my WTFU Accountability Program in a few short weeks. I’m doing this for 3 reasons:
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You are in fact, full of shit.
You will tell me that you are planning on finding a new job/starting a business/pursuing another avenue, etc, but you won’t and you don’t. I know this because you are doing the exact same shit you were doing 3 years ago. You need someone to call you out on your bullshit.
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You need someone to hold your hand.
The last thing you need is another fucking eBook (yes, even mine) to tell you how to change your life. You will read it, apply 0% of it and move on to the next info product. You need someone to
helppush you out of your comfort zone and start making small changes. And let’s face it, few of us have truly supportive people that we can turn to for this. -
I care.
I honestly do. I have seen firsthand how having someone holding you accountable to your commitments can make ALL the difference. When I started making changes in my life, I had someone there every day to keep me on point. It would have been so easy to say “fuck it” and resume my lifestyle because it was easier, but she was there to (not so gently) remind me why I was doing this and then offered up a swift kick in the nuts when I was screwing up.
If I Can Do It, You Can Do It
I believe in you. I believe every person has the ability to break out of their self imposed prisons and do something better. What I want is for you to spend the rest of your life feeling good about what lies ahead. What I want is for you to make the best of your time here, regardless of what that looks like.
And what I want is for you to look at me as an example of somebody who went from being an angry and miserable cynic on the verge of an emotional and physical breakdown to where I am today. Today I stand with my head high, feel more vibrant that I have in 20 years, and am absolutely pumped about my future.
Because if I can make these changes than I know you can! And I want to be the one to help you get there…
So what’s your excuse? How are you full of shit?

Michaela Mitchell
You, Sir, are the master of email subject lines and blog post headlines. š
I can admit NOW that I was full of shit for a while, but I could never have made the step to working for myself without amazing support from my family, either. It helps to have people (or even just one person) who believes in you completely and is willing to make sacrifices to help you achieve your dreams. It’s not a requirement – since so many people do it without support – but for those who are afraid, it might be what they need to take the first step. I know it’s what I needed.
Steve
Quick, call Copyblogger and tell them I am the new king of the headlines!!!!
In my experience, very few people will be truly supportive of your dreams. It’s not that they don’t love you, it’s that they think they know better than you. They think they are protecting you from yourself and making bad decisions. And many times it does turn out to be a bad decision or a failure, but if you are pursuing something you love, it doesn’t matter.
I have just a few people in my life I can count on for unconditional support. If I chose to become a rodeo clown or a carny, it wouldn’t matter, they would be 100% behind me. And sure we can do it without those people, but it’s a whole lot easier with them.
Sebastian Aiden Daniels
I agree with what Michaela said about you being the master. I woke up and turned on my laptop to check my email and I see a subject line saying I am full of shit. I thought to myself, “WTF. Why is Steve mad at me?” So I opened it and read it and though ooh okay. Now I get it haha.
I say half and half for the question of what I am doing and if I want to do it for the next 30 to 40 years. I am trying to hyper focus in the current moment to achieve success in the endeavor I am working on currently first, but I would like to eventually branch out into other endeavors. I was going to say there isn’t enough time for everything, but then I just called bullshit on myself because I thought of the quote that says something along the lines of Einstein, Helen Keller, etc.. all had 24 hours in the day too.
I think the biggest thing for me, which I have worked on a lot, is that I listen to fear, aka the shit monster. My excuse is that I sometimes think I am not good enough. If I think that then why would should anyone else think I am good enough?
Steve
That’s funny, Sebastian. I actually got a few emails with similar responses. Thanks for that overly vague response about the next 30 or 40 years š
What is the current endeavor? What are you hyper focusing on?
I used to use the time excuse also, but it’s just time management. By the way, I suck at that..damn you, Gmail..
The fear of not being good enough is a HUGE debilitator. Seriously, that fear can fuck with your mind and keep you living a in the world of underachievement forever.
From what I know about you from your blog and the comments you’ve left here, I would say you have a great deal going for you. And you seem to have a great deal of wisdom for a young guy. How old are you btw?
Sebastian Aiden Daniels
Hahaha. That made me laugh.
The current endeavor is releasing the memoir, which I’ve done 9 edits on and worked with two editors and then starting a romance novel. It is a romance novel, which will take up a page for me to explain why I am doing that. I have written a bunch of other stuff also. I am hyperfocusing on the writing and growing the blog. It is a long term process and patience is the key. I am like you where I use to have a blog and it was going well, but then I suddenly stopped. I am in it for the long term now.
Time management is tough. That is true. It sucks and just keeps your from not doing anything. I try to tell myself that no matter what I do I’ll be in a failure in someone’s eyes, so why not say screw it and go for it.
Thanks. I appreciate that compliment. I am 24.
Steve
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Interesting projects you’re working on. How close are you to releasing the memoir? What are you going to do with it? And building a blog, readers, community, etc IS a long-term thing. Anyone who thinks otherwise will be sadly disappointed.
And at 24, you’ve done a lot and seem very emotionally mature. Good for you. I was a knucklehead at that age, drinking and hooking up. The world needs more people like you for sure..
Sebastian Aiden DAniels
It will be released at the end of July. It is with the editor for the final edit right now. I’m just going to sell it and promote it. It’s been a long journey to finish it and edit it 9 times and I didn’t know if I was even going to publish it, but I’ve gotten a lot of positive feedback on it, so I figured it could help some people who have struggled with mental illness.
Yeah you have to be in it for the long term or else it just won’t work out probably.
Thanks. I put in a lot of work on myself to get to where I am at or else I’d probably be an addict right now or dead. Yes a lot of people have said that to me haha.
Jana
I am almost 50 years old and I am full of shit. Truth is, I’m so full of shit and so buried in shit that I can’t see past the stinking mess! I’m on the edge of that breakdown you referred to. But Steve, I’ve been buried so deep for so long that I’m blinded and paralyzed by it. So much so that choosing from a restaurant menu is difficult, let alone knowing what direction I want to take with my life! So how do I flush this shit, once and for all, and connect with my passion and vitality?
Steve
Hey there Jana,
Thanks for your candid honesty here. I know it’s not easy telling yourself (and now thousands of others) that you’re full of shit.
Tell me about you. What do you do for a living? Married? Kids? What brings you the most unhappiness in your life right now? I have a number of questions, but let’s start with the basics.
Susan
I’d like to read more of what you’re actually doing work wise. You never really say, and it could be helpful if you broke it down for people you want to take action.
Steve
Hi Susan,
I have shared what I do for a living in a number of my posts, but I’ll be happy to share again. I deal in human trafficking and it’s highly lucrative!
In all seriousness, I make most of my income from my personal training business. I work for myself, set my own schedule, and work with the clients I want to. I’ve been a trainer for 16 years and love the work.
I also work as a freelance writer and write for several blogs. I am spending a lot of time on this site although it doesn’t generate revenue yet but I’m getting ready to launch my accountability program in August, which will get the ball rolling as far as creating income.
Keshav
My life has become very busy, raising up the ladder and lot of things/meetings. Busy for the sake of busy.
During one of those many meetings (calls) this post dropped into my Inbox and and the subject made me laugh for a long while (fortunately I was on mute)
Yeah, I’m full of shit!
I’m beyond those day dreams and excuses, that was years(s) ago during the time when you got your ass kicked by Penelope.
There is not much change, I started working with a friend part time marketing his scuba diving business. But I’m not taking that seriously either. I can say because there is no time, but I know you would say that I’m full of shit š
So whats next Steve? Trying to change by myself is somehow not working…and I’m in a zombie mode watching the world go by looking for the next fun activity
Steve
Busy for the sake of busy. Sounds familiar, Keshav. Glad I could brighten up your day with a little wake up call š
That’s not a good thing that you’ve given up on your dreams and are on auto pilot. How old are you?
What is it that you like doing? What are your top 3 favorite pastimes? What do you do on your weekends? These are questions to ask yourself but I want you to answer them here as well.
If what you’re doing is not working, then it’s time to make a change. You know that but are unwilling to do it. What are you afraid of?
I want to see your answers here!
The Wallet Doctor
Its way easy to be all talk and no delievery. This is true for a lot of things, but when it comes tones to figure out what you’re doing with your life, it’s actions that matter. That’s why this is one realm where the BS has to stop.
Steve
So very true. We are all full of shit indifferent ways but when it comes to negatively affecting your quality of life, it has to stop. Unfortunately, many people will not stop it and it becomes overwhelming.
Naomi@business start ups
Hi Steve,
1st Time commenter and I’ll have to agree with Michaela and Sebastian – King Of Headlines!
I’m looking forward to becoming a regular reader and following your content
Thanks, Naomi
Steve
Right on, I’ll take it!!
I appreciate you stopping by and checking out my stuff. Looking forward to seeing you around..
Adam
Hi Steve, you or a robot just followed me on Twitter
**** me this blog made me smile .
Loving it and signing up now to your emails for fun ( NEVER do this normally )
Good to see someone kicking my arse for me, now back off to get some real work done š
Steve
Funny, Adam! Glad you are digging my site and I hope you find the book useful. I’d love to hear your thought on it too! Have fun at work š
Trish
I work with people that are soon full of shit that it sticks out of their pores like a chia pet. Their lying two faced bullshit makes me want to shove them in a wood chipper for fertilizer but I wouldn’t want to force a beautiful flower to have to grow in their dung! I have grown to hate people and trust no one because of the asshole I have met in my life. If people were forced to drink truth serum and speak the truth, they wouldn’t be such disappointments!!!
Steve
Wow, you sounds a little bitter…brings back so many memories from when I was in the 9-5. It’s clear you need a change so I’d highly suggest finding an alternative to what you currently do before you end up shooting at a crowd from the Mandalay Bay…