Getting Pissed And Saying Fuck You To The Rules
Jul
I’m pissed.
I went for a run today and in the midst of listening to “Titanium”, I got to thinking about my life. By all accounts, I have it all: A thriving personal training business, ample freelance writing work, total flexibility over my schedule, 2 incredible daughters, and a wonderful relationship with a highly supportive woman.
But the more I ran, the more angry I got.
And as I yelled out an emphatic “FUCK!” and took my frustrations out on the ground by doing another set of pushups, it hit me.
I was angry because I’m playing the game of life in a small and insignificant way. I am playing it like a fucking pussy.
I have all the tools necessary to be make a huge impact on how people live their lives, have the quality of life I want, and earn more than enough money to allow me to achieve all my financial goals.
But I have been keeping those tools locked up in the shed and all I want to do is break down the fucking door and use them!
And the thing holding me back from using them is fear. Nothing more.
We Have The Tools Already!
I think about all of you who are living this way as well. You fly under the radar, fearful of what might happen if you take action on something important, all the while going through the motions of living a productive and happy life.
You have all the tools necessary to live a life of abundance, a life of inexplicable wealth, health and peace. You really do.
You have tremendous skills that you aren’t using.
You have a passion and desire to be great, but fail to do anything about it.
You have the ability to change your circumstances this very instant.
But you don’t.
And it pisses me off that you (and I) are choosing to play it safe. Why the fuck are we doing this? Why can’t we say “fuck you” to the rules of life and live how we want?
A Self Imposed Prison
When you read my writing, you may think I’m doing great and in all reality, I am. I have an incredible fucking life right now. I work for myself helping people get fit and healthy. I set my own hours, choose my clients, and make a very healthy hourly wage. I get to write about my passions on this blog and thousands of people read it every month.
But I’m still pissed because I’m living by the fucking rules that I’ve set in my own mind. A self imposed prison if you will. I, like many of you, allow the social norms to dictate what I can and cannot do. This holds true for my business as well.
As you may or may not know, I have dedicated myself to pursuing my passion for connecting with people on a deep level and helping them break free from self limiting beliefs. To help people find what they love to do and be the impetus for it coming to fruition. I’m all in with this.
This blog is a huge part of my life and future and is the catalyst for much of what I want to accomplish in the next 5 years.
And I’m worried that I’m doing it all wrong…
The “Rules” of Online Business
I’m so tired of spinning my wheels worrying that someone might unsubscribe from my email list because the “rule” clearly states that “the money is in the list” and if I ever want to earn a full-time income online, I have to have that damn list!
I worry that when one of my posts does shitty and nobody seems to care about it, I’m going to fail because I believe the weight of my future success rests in the hands of this blog.
I worry that I’m not doing enough, working fast enough, helping enough, and creating enough to ever stand out and make a dent in the blogosphere.
But this worry has kept me playing a small game, a game where I am more concerned about how I will look versus actually what comes naturally and from my heart.
It’s a game I cannot win.
Fuck The “Experts”
Just about every expert online will tell you that all the things that need to happen for an online business to be successful.
Just because the industry says split testing works, so what? Just because list posts do well in search engines, so what? Just because writing attention grabbing headlines is the best way to get someone to read your post, so what?
And these things may all be true and work well and I’m just an idiot, but I don’t care. I’m tired of listening to them.
Sure, following Jeff Walker’s Product Launch Formula will work and you’ll make money. Sure, joining a mastermind group and sharing ideas with your peers is useful. Sure, listening to Podcast after Podcast learning about your trade makes sense.
But guess what else works? Not doing the PLF. Not joining a mastermind. Not Listening to another Podcast.
How about pouring out your heart and soul into what you do and doing it for the right reasons?
Does this mean that I’m going to disregard all conventional business wisdom and best practices and do whatever the hell I want? No.
But as my coach, Izzy Arkin, recently told me in one of our conversations, “there are no rules” and I believe him. Think about that for a moment. What if there were no “rules” to success online or in any business for that matter? What if you simply did what you love and did it from the heart?
What would that look like?
Would it matter that your opt in form used the word “newsletter” or if your About Page wasn’t perfectly written for the reader? It’s just like your life. Working a job, earning a regular paycheck, and collecting health benefits works and most people do exactly that.
But so does saying “fuck it”, quitting, and taking the world by the balls!
Now Get Pissed!
What are you pissed off about? Surely there is something that ignites your anger and makes you want to club a baby seal over the head (OK, maybe that was a bit extreme).
I remember reading a post by Mars Dorian, To Hell With Passion, I Have Found Something Way Better, and he nailed it when he said that anger was a more productive emotion than passion.
We all have passions we would love to explore but most of us won’t do jack shit about it. It’s all well and good to think about the “what if’s”, but it’s not enough. What if I could only teach rock climbing full-time or what if I could only spend my summers in Europe or what if I could only make more money and start that business I’ve always wanted to???
If living a life that doesn’t excite you and feeling trapped in an average existence doesn’t piss you off, you have a problem. A BIG one.
Either you’ve checked out mentally and are merely passing the hours away until you die or you’ve lost your purpose. I can’t help you if you are the former, but if you are the latter, there is hope.
You need to get so fucking pissed off that your life sucks that you have to take action. That fire is in there somewhere and it’s your responsibility to find it and unleash it.
Use Anger To Fuel Your Actions
I woke up today feeling blah; neither good nor bad. I had my day planed out and among other things, was going to write a post about confidence. I wrote more than half of it and then went for my run.
When I returned from my anger fueled exercise session, I sat down and wrote this post without stopping. It took me well over 3 hours but I couldn’t not write this.
It was anger driving me. Anger at myself and nothing else.
I don’t like being angry but realize that it’s my ally. My anger is literally forcing me to do shit I would otherwise not do.
Getting After It
My online business has not taken off and the reason is that I’m not selling anything here yet. Duh.
The first step is launching my Accountability Program, which I have been procrastinating for several months now. I have 4 pages of notes with all my thoughts and ideas on it but have put it off because I have been afraid of doing it all wrong.
But I realize now that it doesn’t really matter. Sure, I’ll fuck some things up and make mistakes, but so what? There are NO rules about how I do it, when I do it, and why I am doing it.
So what I’m going to do is live my life and build my business without hesitation from now on.
If I fuck it up, then I fuck it up. There are a thousand ways to get to the end goal and damned if I won’t find one of them…
And the same goes for you. Whatever your business, there is nothing stopping you from creating a new set of rules and doing it your way. Don’t fall into the trap of trying to fit into someone else’s idea of right and wrong.
Now get pissed and get after it!!
How about you? What pisses you off? What “rules” are you a slave to?
Laura
Wow, you ARE angry. Sounds like more of a rage, fanning flames that hopefully won’t explode or burn out.
Not everyone is motivated by anger, there are lots of ways people are motivated. Anger can make people shut down and be unproductive because they’re fighting and not focused on moving forward.
Hope you get to what you’re fighting for, you’ve got the energy and drive to keep on pushing.
Steve
Hey Laura,
I was definitely pissed, but in a positive way. I wasn’t beating myself up or being negative. I was inspired by it and felt great as I was writing this post. I know there are many emotions that can be responsible for getting and staying motivated and for me, anger was the one that did it. I have struggled to stay on track and keep my head up over the last 5 months.
My return to blogging has not been met with the interest I had expected and I’d be lying if I didn’t day I was disappointed and a little hurt. I know people move on and in my case, forget about you, but it doesn’t make it easier. This blog had consumed my life in 2010/2011 and I loved it. Basically starting over was rough and I wasn’t sure I would be able to find that inspiration again.
I do feel great right now and have decided to just go after this without worry of looking bad, being judged, or failing…
Tony
Great post Steve and I love the emotion in your words. Driven by a conviction that won’t falter.
A lesson in your post there bro…
Well worth 3hrs of your time.
Steve
Thanks brother! It’s something that has been eating away at me for a long while…
Steve Rice
Steve,
I recently made a discovery about myself and fear that shocked me.
I’ve never felt afraid to succeed, but I still struggled with pushing forward. Then I realized that I use fear for control. I’m a control freak.
Failure is predictable. I can manage failure. I can’t easily manage success. It might be mediocre, or it might go really well and get completely out of hand.
So I used fear to control my outcomes–which were not beneficial to me.
When I realized this, I didn’t get angry so much as disappointed. But once I realized this truth about how I work in the world and how I was sabotaging myself, it began to loose it’s power.
I can understand your frustration starting out again. My sites get half the traffic they did 2-3 years ago…and I’ve changed next to nothing. The online space is shifting/has shifted, so it’s a different world to get acclimated to.
Glad you’re moving forward with your dreams anyway!
Steve
Steve,
Thanks for being honest about your fear. I know that you’ve done a lot of self discovery in the last few years and it’s great to see that you can recognize your limiting beliefs and change your mindset. It’s all about the power we give things. Everything that happens are just events and it’s only when we give them power that they have significance.
Sebastian Aiden Daniels
I felt the intensity and passion from this post man. It is a great post. Great writing makes the reader feel something.
I love it when you that passion comes and the words flow out and it all makes sense. It is awesome.
Anger can definitely be a key driver for motivating yourself. If I am lacking motivation, I will tell myself that if I don’t do it then my future will be pissed and laugh at me for being a loser and I won’t give that asshole the satisfaction. It works for me.
The biggest driver for me isn’t anger. It is anxiety. If I am angry it is often because it is masking my anxiety. I fear failure or that it won’t work out so I have to keep moving forward so as to not let the anxiety catch up with me and tear me down.
I have been tied down by the social convention/personal belief that I always have to be nice and always be liked. I am slowly starting to break away from it and realize that if people dislike me then that is a good thing because the people who like me, like me for who I actually am.
I saw your comment above about your blog not being as you’d like. That is a hard one to deal with and be patient with. Have you found that most people don’t care or aren’t as interested? : /
Keep up the kicking ass and being yourself and telling your feelings. This post is a good one.
Steve
Thanks so much Sebastian, I appreciate that.
That’s funny about looking at your future as a tangible thing. If it works though, great for you! I can relate so much to what you mention about wanting people to like you. The overwhelming desire to be validated is something so many people deal with and if you’re able to separate yourself from that emotion, then you’re doing well.
I hate it when people don’t like me. I am a people pleaser and always have been. But as I said in my post, I cannot let that control me any longer. It’s taken too much of a toll on me.
And as far as my blog, I am struggling with the numbers and the lack of engagement. I am benchmarking it against my site in 2010/2011 as well as against all my peers that I was starting out with back then. Many are crushing it and it’s been frustrating thinking about what could have been if I had not quit.
But I have no regrets about what I did here and am focused on creating the best damn site I can!
Ken Carlson
Love the urgency. Reminds me of a book I’m reading about using our masculine essence when we interact with the world. “Your masculine gift is to know where you are, where you want to be, and what you need to get there.” David Dieda from The Way Of The Superior Man
Steve
Thanks Ken,
I like the reference and will have to check out the book. I do feel a sense of urgency, especially in the last few weeks. My “moment” during my run was just the icing on the cake to put me over the top.
Sebastian Aiden Daniels
You’re welcome.
Yeah I found it very helpful. That is true. Your emotions are important because they tell you things and at the same time they don’t control you.
You can overcome your people pleaserness! I have, for the most part. It is difficult, but it can be done : D.
That makes sense. The what could have beens are dangerous! Who are your peers that you started out with back then? I am sure you will gain the stats and far surpass them if you keep going. You have something to offer.
On the plus side, your domain is older than people who are starting now, which gives you an edge with search engines. Supposedly, it is easier to rank if your domain is older.
Evan
Anger well directed is a better fuel than passion. To start with.
Using it on an ongoing basis I think leads to exhaustion and tunnel vision and counter-dependence.
The big problems I have with the rules of online business is that people follow them and they don’t work. I don’t have enough knowledge yet to know what does (apart from cliches): the biggest is, ‘know your people’; if you know your people you know what they want, how to write – everything basically. This is the marketing cliche, “What do you need for a successful hamburger business? A hungry crowd!” And online knowing what they are hungry for and where to find them.
Steve
Good points, Evan. Anger is effective but only in short bursts. Walking around angry is not how I want to live my life. I agree that many of the old tricks that the big guys talk about are no longer effective.
I do believe that once you understand what your readers really want, you can then create it and then sell it. The hardest thing for me is knowing exactly what people want.
Anna
Steve, thank you for this incredible essay!
I came to realize that fear had been in control my life. My procrastination, finding excuses, the obstacles and disadvantages was nothing but fear. And this is what imprisons us.
What frustrates me off the most is that I have a hard time leaving my comfort zone.
Yes, we “have tremendous skills that you aren’t using”.
Yes, we “have a passion and desire to be great, but fail to do anything about it.”
Yes, we “have the ability to change your circumstances this very instant”.
because of the FEAR
It takes me a lot of time to convince myself to publish a new blog post. What if I sound weird, what if I don’t make sense… And the fact that the English is not my native language has little to do with it.
A few months ago, I decided to record a video and upload it on Youtube. Can you guess why I still haven’t done this? Well, this is obvious, I don’t have a good quality camera. Now, that my son assured me mine is just fine, I found out that I need a special tripod. And besides, I don’t know how to upload the videos on Youtube, let alone edit it. That is because it is a rocket science.
Are you laughing? You should because it is pure crap and I know it. I’ve been feeding myself crap for too long and I am tired of it.
Regarding the anger…I think it is OK to get angry (sometimes) with your current situation and be unsatisfied with how things going. A short anger outburst is like a kick in the butt. You start to move faster, or act wiser, or become more productive, given that you analyze what’s wrong first. So, it is OK if it is short and you know how to channel it.
But to be angry with yourself all the time, which I hope is not your case, is unhealthy. Being mad at yourself is a waste of energy. You know what you want to change: you are flipping the experts and the rules, and doing it your way.
The work is half done, encourage yourself. Don’t beat yourself up, you are doing an amazing job.
Steve, you mentioned the Accountability Program you are working on and I got an idea. I decided to dare to make an announcement. I promise to you I will have my first video ready in one week. Can you be my accountability partner?
If I say something wrong, If my video doesn’t look professional, if I make a mistake, then so be it.
“Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it” – Bill Cosby
Steve
And thank you for this incredible comment, Anna!
I sense so much fear in your words and it’s apparent that you’ve allowed it dictate your life. I’m right there with you in regards to worrying about what people will think if we put some part of ourselves “out there” for the world to see. The fear of criticism is a huge barrier for many, including me and you!
And I actually was laughing at all your excuses as to why you haven’t posted your video. I do the same thing all the time, but as I indicated here in this post, I will no longer allow that to hold me back.
I am not an angry person and rarely lose my cool. I was surprised by it the other day and did use it as fuel to write and share my feelings. It also served to kick my ass and it make me really think about how I’m showing up in life. And the answer I got didn’t make me happy.
I am actually not beating myself up here, I simply am super frustrated at the limitations I put on myself because I believe certain things to be true. Well they aren’t. There are no rules for us here. You and I can create whatever we want and be as successful as we choose.
As far as the accountability question, absolutely! The important thing is that you just do it. Believe me, you will find faults (probably many) with your video but so what? Post it anyway.
OK, you are on the hook now to have this video no later than 7/15. Looking forward to it!!
Anna
That’s it, Steve, I have challenged myself and I am on the hook (finally!), there is no way back.
Yes, I know there will be lots of faults in my video, but I am doing it anyway. Thanks for your encouragement.
Steve
My pleasure! Looking forward to seeing what you’ve got!
Lorraine Reguly
Personally, I hate that there are so many political rules to adhere to when in a blogger’s group. I belong to one on LinkedIn, and many people reciprocate comments each and every week – just to get comments.
What’s more is that I hate that I got “sucked” into doing this, too. Why are comments so darn important? Why can’t a blog post just be a blog post? Why do we need to interact with other bloggers so much?
This is the thing that ticks me off.
Sure, it’s great to show support to everyone. Sure, it’s nice to open your dashboard and see that you’ve got a comment to reply to. But holy smokes – isn’t there a better way of doing things than belonging to such a cliquish group? Grr. Yep, I’m pissed, too.
I just want to live my life, blog each week, write, and be happy.
The problem for me is discoverability. I’m not that well-known (but I’m not sure I want to be sooo famous that my ego becomes inflated) and so I do what I can with what I have.
(FYI, I found you via Adrienne Smith’s blog. Your blog post title caught my eye. Nice to meet you.)
But, still… GRR. (LOL)
Thanks for giving me a place to vent.
Steve
Hey Lorraine,
Good to meet you.
I can definitely sense your frustration and have a question; what are you trying to do with your blog? What is your end goal? For me, it’s creating a huge community of like minded people and being able to offer them a service they want and need. So comments are really important to me.
Some people don’t care and some even turn comments off. It doesn’t sounds like you one for much engagement and that’s fine. I don’t think the act of commenting is cliched but do agree about the “one hand washes the other” mentality is overdone. If you’ve spent a while online, then you will definitely start to see patterns.
The same people’s names on different testimonials, the same group of people commenting on the same blogs, and the same people promoting each others products. But this is also what I love about the blogging community. People really do have each others backs. People are struggling to build businesses online and come together to try to make it work.
I’ve made a number of friends around the world, had many calls, been given free access to thousands of dollars worth of training, coaching, and products. And it’s because people want to see others succeed here. That’s what I believe anyway…
p.s. Don’t worry about getting a big ego. Just kick some ass online and worry about that later. And just look at Pat Flynn. The guy is earning $90k/month and is still super humble and approachable..
Lorraine Reguly
Steve, it’s nice to meet you, too, although I fear I have given you the wrong impression!
I actually DO like to engage with others, and love getting comments on my blog. When I first began blogging, I was under the (old) impression that blogging was like keeping a “diary” online. Never did I expect others to read what I was writing! LOL (Naive, I know. NOW.)
Originally I began blogging to build an author platform. Then I discovered I could build a business, too, as a freelance writer and editor. My eyes were opened to new possibilities. And now I am making money doing what I love. So I guess it all works out.
And yes, I’ve seen patterns. I’ve been blogging now for 1.5 years, and am not naive anymore. (Phew!)
I’ve also been given the gift of meeting wonderful people. Yes, they have helped me out along the way, too. I am grateful for that.
Looking back on my comment today, I can see that I sounded like a petulant child. Sorry. That’s really NOT me. But you offered a place to vent my frustrations, and so I did.
And yes, Pat’s a great guy. :)I’d like to think that if I was earning even a million dollars a month, I’d still be the same person… an open, honest teacher who loves to write.
Steve
It seems like I did get the wrong impression, Lorraine. I’ve heard it said many times that blogging is not a business but rather a platform for business. In my opinion, building a loyal community of people who want to hear what you have to say is critical. I’m a huge advocate for what Gary Vaynerchuk teaches about trying to connect and serve your audience in the best ways possible.
I’m glad to hear you’re doing well with your business and congrats on the new site!
No need to apologize for your last comment, this IS a place to vent, so I appreciate your honesty.
Matt
Hey Steve!
I think I know the problem, instead of listening to David Guetta check out “I Will Be Heard” by Hatebreed for a nice shot of adrenaline! haha
Seriously though, I very much relate to what you’re saying here. It’s hard to put all of the “best practices” to use AND it takes a lot of time and energy to build a business so we want to make sure it doesn’t fail.
I’ve been working on a package of services for way too long for some of the same reasons you’re talking about.
Time for some Rage Against The Machine! 😉
Steve
That’s it, Matt! The answer was right there all along 🙂
What are you working on? Which site?
How about you put your ass on the line right now and set a hard date for release, dude??
And if you don’t, you need to send $500 to my PayPal account 🙂
I’m serious though. Set a date to get that shit out there.
And props for sharing the tunes…good stuff!
Michaela Mitchell
So there I am, finally catching up on my blog reading – and there you are, saying (as usual) a bit of what I’ve been thinking. I didn’t go for a run and get angry – I cried on a strong man’s shoulder, but the reasoning was still the same. In a very short time, I put myself in that same kind of self-imposed prison. I’m trying to play it safe so no one will tell me that I’m not a good writer and that I don’t know how to blog “properly” which is bullshit.
And yet, every time I stop by your corner of the world, I’m reminded that I don’t have to follow all of the rules to still be successful. Sometimes, you just gotta do you. I’m not angry, but I am fired up. Thanks for that (as usual). 🙂
Steve
Hey Michaela!
Realizing that you are not living up to what you are capable of hurts. It’s a slap in the face that you’re playing it safe and there is no good reason for it. I’m happy to hear that you recognized this in your life and I hope that you will move past it.
Just write from your heart and care about your readers. I’ve had a lot of mixed feedback about my style of writing and what I’m doing here, but I just have to remind myself of who I am serving.
Feel free to drop by anytime for a wake-up call 🙂
Adrienne
Hey Steve,
I STILL have fear of certain things that are holding me back. I know that I have to get out of my own way but it just literally scares me to death.
I am doing what I love and I know I’m moving in the right direction but I’m SO dragging my feet about a lot of stuff because of the fear that I have of moving forward I guess. I haven’t quite put my hand on it but I will be breaking through that this year. I have to or I can’t go any further.
I will tell you that during my journey of blogging I’ve ignored a LOT of what I’ve been taught and I know that it’s probably held me back but I did it my way and I have no regrets. Some of the stuff I look back on now and I’m so thankful I listened to my gut instead.
You’ll get there, that I don’t doubt. I can’t imagine leaving the blog that you loved so much and now having to start from scratch. Yep, we’ve all moved on and have so much going on plus a lot of those that were around back then are no more. I see this a lot too.
You’ll do great and I’m just so glad that you’re happy with your life. You definitely deserve it.
~Adrienne
Shenan
I can feel the fire and passion in you with this post. It’s awesome!!!!
It’s challenging to not allow yourself to think “what if”, But keep your eye on the big picture. The rest will fall right into place. You belong in the blogosphere …. There is no doubt about that !
Continuing to find your happy place will have a ripple affect on your life.
It’s absolutely amazing to me to see the progress you made during the last 12 months…. And to think this is just the tip of the iceberg!!! You rock and I couldn’t be prouder of you!
Steve
Shenan,
I’m glad my passion came through in my writing and I can tell you that when I wrote it, I WAS on fire! It’s has been a struggle to keep my eye on the big picture because I’ve never lived the big picture life. Luckily I have good people like you to give me a constant reminder (aka-swift kick in the nuts) to stay focused on my goals and to remember why I am doing all of this.
I do feel like the blogoshpere is my home and I love doing what I do. Thanks for being my rock and I’m fired up to create an amazing future!!
Steve
Thanks so much Sabra,
I feel the exact same way. I will be 43 in a few weeks and although I try my best not to look backwards and what might have been, I still get frustrated at the fact that I spent SO many years doing shit that made me absolutely miserable.
I’ve read through your blog and you do seem to come across as someone who is holding back her true emotions. The fear of criticism/looking stupid will paralyze you if you allow it to and it sounds like this is doing exactly to you right now.
Let go of all that shit. Believe me, nobody is looking that closely at you (or me, or anyone else). People don’t care that much about us to notice all the things we think they will judge us on. They are too busy worrying about what others think of them!
Seriously, just say “fuck it” and let go of all that. Be you and let the cards fall where they may. I believe we will never find true happiness, fulfillment, or success until we allow ourselves to truly be who we are. And I’m not saying that I’m doing all those things right now, but I work on it every day.
Peter
Hey Steve! Definitely got the energy and the passion you were feeling there! A lot of “fuck” did the job, and you did a great job.
But I remember reading a blog from Shola Richards, who said that there’s a difference between motivation and inspiration – the former is extrinsic, and doesn’t last long. The latter is more intrinsic, and can last as long as you keep the passion alive. What are your thoughts on that?
Steve
I did drop a lot of “fuck’s” in there didn’t I Peter?
That’s an interesting way of looking at motivation/inspiration. I’m not sure if there is any science behind the theory that motivation is temporary, but let’s go with it..
I certainly go through phases of feeling motivated and unmotivated and particular events, conversations, or really anything outside influence can sway that. I think most people are like that. For others. like a Tony Robbins or Brian Tracy, that might be an issue. They are self motivated and driven and nothing that happens will change that.
Feeling inspired is a much more grand emotion. I think that inspiration has the ability to change your life significantly if acted upon. Sure, we can get a ton of shit done while motivated, but the feeling of true inspiration can be a life changer.
Honestly, it’s not that often that I can say I’m inspired. I know I am because I’m overcome by emotion and usually am brought to tears. It’s in these times I write my best work and feel invincible.
Phil Janecic
I’ve seen your guest posts around and I love your style of writing. But what I love even more are your titles. You must have a special skill for naming posts.
It’s refreshing to see someone speaking in the way the message needs to be heard. Don’t get upset and say no to rules – get pissed and say fuck you.
I like what you said about using anger a fuel. I wrote on the same subject, calling it “positive anger” – anger is a powerful emotion and use it for productivity! If you’re interested, I’ve attached the said article with CommentLuv.
Great stuff, keep it up!
Steve
Hey thanks Phil, I appreciate that. You are not the first to tell me that my post titles are good, which is ironic because I always thought I was terrible at it! I’ve read your post and liked your take on it as well (although I’m not into comics or superheroes). Using anger as a turbo boost is precisely what I use it for as well. It doesn’t last long but it can serve as the kick in the ass you need to get started on something.
Reno
BRILLIANT! I’m an advocate for the healthy expression of ALL ones emotions. As I’ve said in the past, “you don’t hold your shit in when you have to take a crap, otherwise you’d be sick – your emotions deserve the same respect.” I couldn’t think of a better way for you to have expressed yourself – meaning-full, purpose-full, and power-full. I felt your emotion, as I’m known to colour outside the lines, but I still find myself giving into “the rules”. I’m going to write down Izzy’s words – “there are no rules” – and place it on my wall to remind me to just do me, and fuck the rules (respectfully so).
Thank you SO SO much for this post my brotha! You’re a badass!
Steve
Thanks Reno!Glad it inspired you, my man!
It’s too easy to forget that life has no rules. We live in a shitty little self-imposed prison and it’s all bullshit. Our life is all we’ve got and if we piss it away living on someone else’s terms, it’s a damn waste..