It’s Time To Become A Rock Star
Mar

So I was sitting on my couch yesterday afternoon watching one of my favorite Gary Vaynerchuk clips on Youtube and decided to listen to some tunes. For some reason, I came across a concert video from an old school metal band (I used to be a headbanger in high school!) and started watching it.
And as it starts to play, my eyes become glued to the screen and I’m totally entranced. I can feel my heart start to race and am overcome with an overpowering sense of inspiration; just raw emotion. It’s hard to put the exact feeling into words but I know it was a feeling I rarely have.
And within moments, I feel tears streaming down my face and I have 2 immediate thoughts:
- Why the fuck am I crying listening to a Slayer song?
- I want to have this kind of impact on people!
Now, I’ll admit that I do cry from time to time (and most notably when I watch Seven Pounds), but never have I been moved so emotionally by music, let alone by heavy metal.
Here is the video I was watching
Now if you haven’t covered your ears and left yet, I’m sure you’re asking yourself how in the hell someone could not only listen to this shit, but how they could actually find it emotionally moving.
If you watch this video the whole way through (at least start at the 1:10 mark), you will see the raw power not only of their music, but the power that they have over their audience. There are tens of thousands of screaming fans all wishing that they could some day be like the rock stars on stage in front of them.
I myself was a bit thrown off by the fact that it got to me so much. But to understand why, you first have to know a few things about me:
- In school, I was kind of an outcast. I didn’t have any real friends or belong to any cliques, so I ended up hanging around with the degenerate metal heads. I was the kid with greasy long hair who wore the Levi’s jean jacket with the evil looking back patch sewn onto it. I was also the kid who hung out in the courtyard with all the smokers and underachievers (although I’ve never smoked).
- I identify with this music. I lost myself in heavy metal for years and when I listen to it, I am taken back to that time. Not that it’s a particularly great time in my life, but I can see myself sitting on my twin bed in my mother’s small apartment, listening to my newly purchased cassette tape from Rockit Records on my Sony walkman.
- I am not a devil worshiping freak or anything like that. In fact, I don’t care for their message or their lyrics, but what I do admire is their powerful stage presence, heart pumping riffs, and their ability to get 50,000 people off their asses and bang their fucking heads!
And to understand why this is so meaningful to me, you have to watch the following video (or endure as much as you can).
When you watch the second video, you see this band at their very beginning. There are literally maybe 20 people watching them as they begin to play their new brand of thrash metal.
Their story is an amazing one. They had a vision to take heavy metal to a new level, a level that had been set by bands like Metallica, Judas Priest, and Iron Maiden. They played in garages, empty clubs, rat infested shit holes, and anywhere that would give them the time and the opportunity to show what they could do.
And in just a few short years, they had started to develop a loyal following. The reason was not just that their music was unique and that they were talented musicians, but also because they had a vision and they had incredible passion. These four guys lived for their music and to create an incredible, fist pumping and head banging experience for their audience.
And they did exactly that.
Their notoriety rose quickly by being true to who they were. They lived, breathed, and slept Slayer. They toured the world, got big name record deals, and took their brand mainstream. And they are still doing it 20 years later.
And if you are unfamiliar with Slayer, keep in mind that this isn’t some cut rate group of dirtbags. Their record sales are more than $20 million dollars and they are considered to be one of the top 10 greatest metal bands in history. They also have been cited as one of the most influential bands in heavy metal history.
And I thought about all of this yesterday and realized that their story is the story of determination and resounding passion. And in my opinion, it parallels the life of the up and coming blogger, the former employee turned entrepreneur, and the brand new business owner. The person that I am.
There is hope. We can live our passions.
And the real reason I got so emotional yesterday was that this is how I want to live my life.
As an aspiring online entrepreneur, I realize that I must start with just a few fans. I realize that in order to reach the level of success I want, I must be willing to pour my heart out into creating something awesome. I realize that it may take years of grueling hours sitting behind my laptop writing for an audience that may or may not be there. And I realize that I will never succeed without first helping people get what they want.
And I’m going after it.
My dream is to inspire as many people as I possibly can. I want people to watch me or read my writing with the same fervor that Slayer’s fans have for them. Their fans travel halfway across the planet just to see a 2 hour concert, they wait in line for 16 hours to get the best seats, and they buy everything that they produce because they are diehard fans who know that they will get every penny’s worth and much more.
Becoming a Rock Star
If I had even one ounce of musical ability or talent, maybe I would pursue the life of a real rock star, but I don’t. I wrote off being an actual rock star when I was 16 and took guitar lessons playing my used cherry red, Fender knockoff electric guitar. I still feel sorry for my teacher, who had to endure my tone deafness and inability to play even the most basic chords.
I want to be a rock star in an entirely different light. I want be the guy who can inspire thousands (dare I say millions) to change they way they think about life. I want to be the guy who comes to mind when people think of living a passionate life. I want to be the guy who helps people understand that life is too fucking short to waste away an a mind numbingly boring job.
You’ve heard me say it many times before, but I do believe my calling is to help and inspire people through my writing. I may not be the best speaker, get nervous as shit in front of a room, and have a hard time taking charge in a group setting. But what I can do and do very well is write in a way that connects deeply with others.
And that’s my plan for 2014 and beyond….
Going After It
I haven’t shared the most recent changes in my life, of which there are some big ones, and I plan to do that in my next post, which I will publish on Monday, March 3/31. Until then, I hope that you will think about the message of my post today and even more importantly……..have become a Slayer fan!!!!!
And by the way, this is the Gary V video I was watching. Take the 15 minutes to watch it all because it’s incredibly motivating and may have the same impact on you that it had on me.

Drew
Right on Steve. Keep it coming!
Steve
Will do, Drew!
SMAZY
Your journey is inspiring and your passion and dedication to finding your happiness is admirable. I love the personal aspect of the blog … Can’t get enough!
Steve
I appreciate that! And I’m glad you can’t get enough because I have A LOT more coming!!
Benny
Heck yeah Steve! I know w/ your drive and passion, you will make it happen!
Steve
Benny,
Thank you, my friend! I love the vote on confidence..
Farnoosh Brock
Steve, that video from Gary V is one that I watched and shared so many times. Do What You Love, right? I didn’t even click, I know from his stance that’s the video. And YOU are a rockstar already for having this vision, for pursuing this path and for not living a life of quiet desperation like so many others that we both know. Benny and Smazy and Drew are right and so are your silent readers that are not speaking up (I have many too and I love’em all ;)) – So please stay authentic. Don’t apologize for loving hard rock or anything else. And chart that course to inspire millions I’m so happy to cal you my friend.
Steve
Farnoosh,
I’m right there with you on Gary V. I have soon that clip so many times and it always fires me up. It’s all so true what he says. It’s not just about listening to your audience but actually giving a shit!
Your story is an inspiration in itself and I see what your passion and dedication has done in your life. I’m so excited about my future and can’t wait to move along in my journey!!
Scott
Steve,
Awesome post bud!
I can totally relate. I have been a drummer since the 7th grade. I am still a drummer and continue to play. Your thoughts about watching the band play brings so many emotions to myself as well. I feel like that each time I get to play publicly. I am 53 now and still have those feelings.
I always play hoping to inspire some young person to pickup a pair of sticks and start playing.
I also find that working on my online business is the same way at times. I write in the area of Online Security and have a desire to teach MANY others to learn to be safe online. There are SO many threats in cyber space and I almost feel it is my “duty” to teach others in a non-techie way how they can conquer and take charge in the security space.
Your posts are always motivating and inspiring. I know you already have some that are inspired by your writing. One of those being myself. Keep up the great work brother!
Scott
Steve
Hey there Scott,
Thanks so much for the comment. I think many of us probably had the dream of being an actual rock star and being up on stage in front of huge crowds and rocking out. That’s awesome that you did and are still doing that. Do you play in a band?
And having a passion for whatever you do is critical and it’s great to see that you have it for what you teach about online security. Feeling responsible to educate others shows your commitment to your craft and I admire that. I too feel like I need to share my story in order to wake people up to the reality of their lives and show them that they can change things and find passion and happiness.
Steve Rice
Steve…excited to read the upcoming post and see what you have planned. I’m rooting for you to win. I can’t wait to see how this all turns out in a year.
Steve
Thanks Steve. You have been a rock for me here and I always know I can count on you to offer words of wisdom or support when I need it.
Marvin
Steve. I just finished reading this and, well, you are well on your way to inpiring people, I can tell this was directly ‘from the heart’, … Even though I’m really tired after a day’s work, having read your well put together presentation, I can’t wait to get home and continue working on my passion/objectives … I used to do public speaking way back and my mentor used to say “if you can’t put FIRE into your material, put it in the FIRE”.. There was definitely FIRE in this message; Heavy Metal is not my thing, though I do like some of it, but, Man, I have to listen when I get home… keep pumping out that brutal honesty Steve.
Steve
Hey Marvin,
I appreciate your kind words and love hearing that you are inspired enough to take action after a long day. If you really want to make a change in your life, you will have to do the things that you don’t want to like working on your project instead of watching tv. It sucks sometimes, especially when you’re worn out from your job.
I definitely felt the FIRE while writing this post, which I haven’t felt in a while. And you may want to start off with some lighter metal, like Metallica or Anthrax. Slayer is not for the faint of heart!! 🙂
Derek McCullough
Steve, I just found your site and love the message.
I’ve read a couple of your posts and am so glad you came back to blogging. You’re the kind of guy we need.
My goal is the same. I want people to believe in me, but more importantly I want them to believe in themselves.
I look forward to Monday’s post.
You’re a rock star, man
Steve
Derek,
I’m glad you found my site and took the time to leave me a comment! That’s nice of you to say and I feel like we need more “real” blogs. So many personal growth type sites are all fluff and are pretty impersonal.
Well said about belief. I couldn’t agree more..
Looking forward to seeing you around from now on..
Ruth Zive
Love the message in this post. I am loving your newfound sense of passion. You sound liberated and determined – SOOO much better than defeatist and resigned! I’m rooting for you Steve!
Steve
Ruth,
I must say I do feel liberated! I still have to catch myself often being negative and it’s something I have to continually work on, but I feel better than I have in many years. Thanks for the cheers 🙂
Adrienne
Hey Steve,
Okay, I’m not into heavy metal but I “get it”. People use to ask me what I’m passionate about and it was suppose to be something I could take and build a business around. I wasn’t passionate about anything but helping people. I morphed that into my business and it frickin works!
People love that you care, so care about them. Be there for them, solve their problems and answer their questions. They’ll love you forever.
Gary is right and I have seen his video but be passionate about what you want to do and do it your way. That will make you stand out trust me.
I’m excited for you for where you’re headed and can’t wait to read your post next week to find out more scoop.
Rock on my friend.
~Adrienne
Steve
Adrienne,
You hit it right on the head! It really comes down to caring about people. You are a great example of this in action and you’ve built something amazing. And I don’t know anyone that doesn’t love you!!!
Thanks so much for your support…
Paige
I know exactly the feeling you experienced watching that Slayer video. I’ve experienced the same thing reading about or watching other people’s stories and it’s what keeps me going.
BTW – I’m not a fan of metal but I’ve learned to appreciate the art as my husband (who is a metal fan) has shown me the dedication and lifetime of practice these guys put into their craft. Our most memorable date was when we went to see Alter Bridge at a local club a few years ago.
Jobs are easy and they’re what we’re trained to do in school. Living your own life takes lots of creativity, energy, dedication, passion, perseverance, commitment and love. We’re trained to think that everything should be quick and easy. The press touts “overnight” successes who have been living their passion for decades, despite the worst of conditions, to be suddenly “discovered.” The days of being discovered are over. Like you’re doing, Steve, we have to discover our own passionate lives and decide to live them in our own unique ways.
You don’t have to be a rock star to make an impact in the world. Every interaction you have has a ripple effect. Every day you’re impacting more people that you can imagine. You don’t have to change a million people’s lives to be a rock star to your kids. You just have to live your life on your own terms and be an example to the people who choose to follow your lead.
Rock on Steve!!
Steve
Well said Paige. I understand what you’re saying about impacting the world and how everything I’m doing now has an effect. I plan to live my life in the best way possible and want to share all I can with others. This is just the beginning for me and feel incredibly lucky to know that I am having an impact.
Todd
Hey Steve, Great post!
You’re exactly right… seeing other regular people follow their dreams and succeed, gives us hope that we can do the same.
Unfortunately, I think that most people equate “success” with fame or money. But I think they’re misguided in that belief and in for a big disappointment.
Gary V eluded to it in his video, by pointing out that happiness should be what it’s all about. And not just happiness after you reach a certain point, but happiness along the way, each and every day.
And your actions show that’s exactly what you’re after. And that’s why you’re an inspiration to me, Steve.
Keep at it! You’ll be a rock star in no time!
Todd
Steve
Hey Todd,
I think part of the draw to my site/story is that I am a regular guy who has gone through some serious shit and has come away from it a far better person. We both know that success has nothing to do with money and everything to do with happiness. I feel sorry for those who think otherwise.
Thanks for your support!
Leonard @ The Wallet Doctor
Its great that you connected with this song so much. Sometimes I’m surprised by what things I end up feeling a strong connection with. But, at different times things will strike us with more or less power. Having that kind of impact is great. Great inspirational post!
Steve
Thanks Leonard,
It was funny because I have heard that song probably 100 times in my life and never had a reaction like that. I guess it was a combination of emotions and the exact point I’m at in my life. Anyway, I’m glad it happened. It opened my eyes..
Tony.B
There’s no way you ain’t gonna make it geez. Just too much talent & drive.
Anyone who want’s to break free needs to get their ar*e over ‘ere…
Steve
Thanks Tony B! I appreciate it..
Sebastian Aiden Daniels
I am not a heavy metal fan, but I understand the message you are trying to get through. It is crazy to think of the perseverance and determination that successful people have. The fact that they persevered through the garages and rat infested shit holes they had to perform in to hone their craft and gain followers is amazing. We can both persevere and succeed Steve. Keep up the good work : D. Your writing does help me : D.
Steve
Sebastian,
Slayer’s story is great because they had a dream, they loved what they did, and said “fuck it” and went for it 100%. If you watch their early videos from the 80’s, it’s pretty bad. But just like you or me or anyone looking to create a vastly successful online business, it takes dedication and time. I’ve gone through many rough patches here and wanted to stop writing. I’ve felt demotivated on numerous occasions and wondered what the point of all it was.
But in the end, I always remember why I am doing this. I’ll read an old email from someone telling me how important my writing is to them and it always brings me back…
Sebastian Aiden Daniels
It makes me think of The Beatles. In Malcolm Gladwell’s book he talks about how they were able to play at some bar for hours upon hours and that they probably wouldn’t have become what we know of as the beatles if they didn’t have that opportunity. I wonder what they sounded like back then.
I totally understand that. It can be tiring and you don’t know if any of your work will pay off, but I often experience awesome gains if I stick with something after the feeling of wanting to quit.
That is a great way to stay motivated. I for one am one of those people you are having an effect on.