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No, this post is not about how I am going to sell you some incredible eBook or how I plan to make a million dollars online in the next few years. No, this is about something much different.

I actually received a comment on my blog from Leah at Smart-Goals-For-Success.com suggesting that I write a post about how to help your spouse become more supportive of your addiction commitment to blogging when you have a full-time job.

The world of Internet marketing and blogging is a mystery to most and trying to teach someone who is unfamiliar with it is a daunting task. When you have a spouse that does not understand your world, it makes your job as a blogger that much harder.

The Black Hole Of Blogging

The black hole I’m referring to is when we become so focused on what we’re doing that the world around us starts to melt away. All we hear is the tapping of our keyboard keys and everything else is just gone. It’s just us and the computer.

Since I started this blog in October 2010, I have been consumed by it. Every chance I get throughout the day is spent writing articles or guest posts, Twittering, leaving comments, answering emails, or marketing.

I spend lunch breaks at the library writing, I respond to comments during free periods during my day, and I spend my nights in front of the computer. I’m not saying this is anything extraordinary, because we all do what we gotta do to make things happen for ourselves.

Yes it’s safe to say that I have gone all-in with my blog and have committed myself completely to it. If you have really found your passion in life, then you know what I’m talking about here. We will do anything and everything to realize our dream.

However, there are a number of challenges a blogger will face during their journey and I certainly have my share. However, my biggest obstacle is not marketing, traffic, or generating income. It’s helping my wife understand what it is I’m doing here and how it’s going to produce a sustainable income.

Spending all your time building something that nobody else sees is difficult task. When the one person we need to be a part of our experience does not understand our world, it’s frustrating. When most people hear terms like affiliate marketing, autoresponder, and HTML, they just glaze over.

We really want people to know what we’re talking about because that’s the language that we speak. Unfortunately, if your spouse is one of these people, you will have an uphill battle trying to get them up to speed.

Why Your Spouse Needs To Be Your Biggest Supporter

A married person knows all too well how much influence their spouse can have over their life and how important it is to have them on the same page as you with certain things.

This is incredibly important for a blogger, especially a new blogger. Unless you are out of touch with reality or have done absolutely no research on it, you will find that blogging as a business is about as easy as keeping Tiger Woods out of a Las Vegas strip club.

Blogging with the goal of creating a long-term profitable business is a long and challenging path. Going into it with an expectation of anything less is a huge mistake.

I found out quickly just how hard this was going to be. I literally spend ALL my free time working on my blog and always feel two steps behind. There are just too many things to do every day and never enough time.

The attrition rate for bloggers is extremely high for this reason. It’s not even close to being an easy way to make a living.

A spouse that is either unsupportive or doesn’t understand what you’re doing can be detrimental to your success.

I was listening to an interview with Srini from BlogCastFM and David Crandall from Heroic Destiny the other day. David mentioned that when he told his wife that he was planning to quit his 6-figure a year job to become a blogger, she was immediately on board and behind the idea 100%. And he has kids!

SAY WHAT!!

Of course this is not always going to be that case, but we would stand a much better chance of success if we had the unconditional  support of our spouses or significant others.

Show Me The Money

So, how do we get our spouses on board with the fact that we are going to be spending the next 2 to 3 years working our asses off day and night for little or no money? Let me rephrase that-how can we get them to understand that we are pursuing our true passion and the rewards will be well worth our time commitment at some point in the not too distant future?

There are a few ways to achieve this:

  • Take the time to explain the process of Internet marketing, driving traffic and gaining readers, building an email list, and the strategies behind monetizing your blog.Yea, this conversation will usually last just about long enough for them to start thinking about the other 100 things that they would rather be doing right now.
  • Have them start their own blog. Blogging is fun and I think if they can get over the fear of trying it, they might actually love doing it. If they can start writing about something they enjoy, then they might see what online sharing is all about. Have them start a free WordPress or Blogger blog to test the waters. Having another blogger in the house would be awesome! Being able to talk shop with your spouse would be a huge benefit!
  • Show them proof that normal people are actually making money doing this. Too many people think everything online is a scam. When you tell them that Yaro Starak is making $10,000 or $15,000 a month and works only a few hours each week, they think you are full of shit. Well, show them. He, like so may other legitimate online entrepreneurs, is a regular person who just so happens to make a great living online. It CAN be done.
  • SHOW THEM THE MONEY. This is when your spouse is never going to buy into your dream of becoming a full-time blogger until you show some tangible results. And by tangible results, I don’t mean the dark bags under your eyes from lack of sleep, I mean cold, hard cash money.

The bottom line is that we need to do our best to get our spouses on the same page as us with what we are doing. For example, if my wife spent hours every day working on Sudoku puzzles (she doesn’t), I would think it was an incredible waste of time.

However, if she explained that it helped sharpen her mind and worked on her concentration skills because she wanted to go back to school to get her nursing degree, it would make much more sense and I would support her.

It’s the same thing with blogging. Many people just don’t get it. If your spouse happens to be one of these people, then we need to help them get it!

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