A Little Story About Commitment
Mar

When I turned 30 back in 2001, I had some kind of epiphany or early mid-life crisis and found myself desperately wanting to change careers. Actually, I didn’t really have a “career”, I was bartending at the Hard Rock Cafe in Denver, Colorado.
I had spent 12 years working in the restaurant industry, and while it was fun and put cash in my hand every night, it wasn’t enough. I felt as though there was something bigger and better that I needed to be doing.
I was not going to be the 40 year old waiter, you know the one that you see at Ruby Tuesday’s and thank God that it’s not you.
So, on my 30th birthday, I made a decision to become stock broker. Why? Because I had always envisioned myself in a suit and tie doing something important, I was good at sales, I knew that I could make a lot of money, it was prestigious (or so I thought), and it was a real career.
The Career Switch
So, I had made my decision. Now what? I had no contacts in the finance world and absolutely no experience in it either. That didn’t matter to me though.
Well, it just so happens that my girlfriend at the time (now wife), had a friend who worked at Chevy Chase Bank. The problem was that she worked in Maryland and I was living in Colorado.
We got in contact and after a few conversations, I decided to move to Maryland and make a run at it. Well, I got an interview, thought I did well, and promptly did not get hired.
Strike 1.
I was however, referred to the branch manager of Merrill Lynch in Washington DC. Back in 2002, Merrill was still a powerhouse (and still solvent), and I wanted in. Badly.
So I show up to my interview in my only suit, which was a hideous olive green double breasted one that was much too small. As I walked in, I came upon wall to wall windows, luxurious offices, and a big screen tv showing real time stock quotes. My heart started pounding and I felt like turning around and running.
Yea, you could say I was intimidated. I was way in over my head and I knew it. Didn’t matter. I had made my decision to work in finance.
The branch manager was a well dressed man in his forties who could not have looked any less interested to see me. When we got to his corner office overlooking downtown DC, he leans back, kicks his feet up on his mahogany desk, looks out the window and asks “why should I hire you”?
In my head, I’m thinking of all the things I want to say; I’ll work harder than anyone else, I’m a fast learner, I’ll do whatever it takes to succeed, and a million other things. So what did I say? “uhhh..well…uhhh”<insert buzzer sound>.
Strike 2
I’m Not Giving Up!
As it turns out, I got a call a few days later from the HR person at Chevy Chase telling me how sorry she was that they didn’t hire me but that her fiancee, who worked for First Union Securities, was looking for a junior broker.
Ding, ding, ding!
I’m fired up now! I call the broker, set up an interview and head back into the line of fire.
I show up to my interview wearing that same ugly suit, still with zero experience, and having been turned down for two jobs already.
Guess what? I told myself that I WAS gong to get this job, period. So I walked in to my interview, sold the shit out of myself, and walked out with a $50,000 a year job plus commission.
More importantly, I had a career and I had made it happen.
I worked with First Union/Wachovia Securities until 2004 when I was ironically offered a position with Merrill Lynch. I took it. Fate? I don’t think so….
Don’t Ever Quit On Your Dream
There were plenty of times that I could have given up and gone back to the restaurant biz, but I had committed myself to working in the financial services industry. Did it matter that I had no experience and was in over my head? Not at all.
It’s funny how things work out when you make that commitment.
The power behind making a decision and committing to it 100% is awesome. Many people are scared of failing or being disappointed, but we cannot allow that to stand in our way.
If you want something in your life, I mean really, truly want it, then make that decision to have it. There is nothing that can stop you if you commit to it with your heart and soul.
I share this story not to brag about my accomplishment, but rather to illustrate a point about the power of commitment. You see, anyone is capable of achieving what they want. It’s all about making that decision, committing to it, and believing you can do it!
I didn’t have any special talents nor was I exceptionally gifted with financial wisdom. I simply followed a process, which was basically as follows:
- I made a definite decision to work as a stock broker
- I committed myself to making it happen
- I took action towards my goal
- I honestly believed that I would become a stock broker
- It then became a reality
It’s amazing what happens when we commit. Things just seem to fall into place and work out for us. Our minds are incredibly powerful things, so never underestimate what you can achieve!
Our minds are also the only things holding us back from achieving our goals, passions, and dreams.
As William Arthur Ward once said, “If you can imagine it, you can achieve it; If you can dream it, you can become it”.
What are you committed to? What are your dreams?

Harriet`
This has been really interesting to read. You did good by getting outof your first job, you obviously weren’t enjoying it so it was the right thing to do to get out!
And even though you aren’t particularly enjoying your new job its so important to have dreams outside it as well!
Steve
Hi Harriet,
When I finally got the job in finance, I felt like I had made it. Unfortunately, it didn’t take long to realize that is was the wrong career for me. Now, 9 years later, I am still doing it. You can see why I’m not too happy with things…
Adrienne
Hey Steve,
You are an inspiration to many and living proof that if you want something, and I mean really want something badly, then you should never give up. The majority of people will not see success the first time they give it a shot so you have to know that if it’s meant to be, it will. Attitude has a LOT to do with it.
Glad to hear that you were able to make that change even though you realize years later that this is not the place for you either. To heck with it, reinvent yourself again. You’ve done it once, you’ll do it again.
Bravo to you Steve. I so admire your strength and determination.
Adrienne
Steve
Adrienne,
Thanks so much for your kind words.
The reason I wrote the post was to open peoples eyes up to the possibilities available to them when a true commitment is made. I honestly believe that there is nothing that we cannot accomplish given the right mindset.
As of right now, I am reinventing myself and have an all new commitment..this blog. I’m not looking at this like a hobby or something I like to do in my spare time. It’s going to be a successful business someday which will allow me to quit my job!
David
I had no idea you were a broker. I guess you’re not a trader, but I love all of the corollaries between trading stocks successfully and being successful in general…anyways
I’ve always preached the power of commitment and this is a great example of how power it can be. The most powerful commitments are the ones you make to yourself. Actually, even if you are making a commitment to someone else, you have to internalize the commitment or you simple will not follow through (well you might follow through, but you will hate your life).
Steve
David,
Yea, it sounded so awesome back then. Big shot broker making the bucks, driving the BMW’s, living large. In actuality, it wasn’t even close to being glamorous. More specifically, it sucked big time.
I did however learn that I was capable of achieving great things and things I thought weren’t possible at one point. Right now, I am committed to building an incredible blog/brand/business and will not stop until I succeed (or die from a stress related heart attack!)
Patricia@lavender-oil
Hi Steve
Kudos to you for going after what you really wanted. Many would have given up and gone back to a job they didn’t enjoy and never get any further.
With that sort of determination, applying the lessons you have already learnt and the ones I am sure you will be learning from experienced bloggers/marketers you are connecting with now; looking forward to hearing how you take this dream forward too.
Thanks for sharing with us Steve and here’s to continued growth and more than you even dream of for 2011.
Patricia Perth Australia
Steve
Patricia,
I learned a great deal about myself at that time. Most importantly though, I learned that getting what you want in life boils down to just a few things. Decision, commitment, action, and perseverance.
I am learning so much as I continue to meet new people and dive deeper into the world on blogging and Internet marketing. I know you’ll be right there with me as my journey continues, succeeding as well.
Tariq and Shaheera
Hi Steve!
Glad you’re spinning a more positive vibe on your blog nowdays since your post on positivity. Kudos to you on that! 🙂
It’s great reading about your experiences and just how resilient you were facing all those rejections. We’re 100% sure that you can do this again and get out of the current rut you’re in now. To echo what Adrienne said, “To heck with it, reinvent yourself again. You’ve done it once, you’ll do it again.” Good luck to you on your journey and we can’t wait to watch your success!
Keep it up Steve! Cheers!
Tariq and Shaheera
Steve
Hey guys,
Thanks for noticing the new direction I am going in. I think being more positive and focusing on helping others has been well received.
I’ve thought about all the things I’ve done in my life and realize that I’m facing my toughest challenge yet. Trying to quit my job being the sole bread winner, having 2 small kids, and a ton of bills is incredibly difficult. Trying to replace the income I have now online is going to take some time, but I am up for it and putting 100% into it!
Thanks for your support as always 🙂