It was brought to my attention recently be a concerned reader, that the overall negative and pessimistic tone of my blog had turned him off and may be turning other readers away as well. Up until this point, I hadn’t thought of that as being a concern.

It’s interesting because my traffic and subscribers have been declining as of late and I wasn’t sure why. So I read his email with an open mind and tried to take his comments seriously.

His email was direct and critical and it hit me especially hard. But that’s a good thing.

So, after reading his email, I started to look more deeply at my writing style and tone and saw some things I didn’t like. The first thing I noticed is how negative I am. Almost all of my posts are “this sucks” or “that sucks”.


Telling someone how much something sucks doesn’t make it better. I have many readers tell me how a particular post hits home or how much they can relate to me and that’s great. I love connecting with these folks.

But I need to ask myself what I can offer them. Complaining about my job or about office life in general does not help those who feel stuck.

My goal is to help people understand that there is absolutely no reason to spend your life doing something you hate. It is also my goal to help people find a way out and begin to enjoy their lives.

If you’re new here and are not familiar with my story, I am extremely unhappy with my job and have allowed it to dictate my happiness for years. I write out of frustration and anger often times and hope my message resonates with my readers.

I have built my blog on the premise of my miserable life and now realize that I have written little in the way of actually helping people.

While I have received many compliments about what I am doing here, I also have to look at if I am really helping people. Sure, it’s interesting to read all about how much I hate my boss or why we need to quit our jobs, but then what? My goal is to build a business online and I have to wonder if that can happen without offering a solution for people.

I had to ask myself if I would be in a better position to help people if I:

  1. Was more positive
  2. Had already quit my job
  3. Could offer concrete ideas on how to quit a job you hate

I think the answer is clearly yes.

Will I have a better chance for success with this blog, my family, and life in general if I’m a happier person? Again, yes.

Successful Blogs Are Helpful


Successful blogs seem to have some important things in common. They offer solutions to peoples problems, help people get what they want, or make their lives better. Maybe all three.

When was the last time you cam across a highly successful blog that was completely negative and focused on all the things that are wrong? They’re out there, but they are few.

As a blogger, it’s very important to be true to your voice and be as real as possible (which I am). I think it’s also important to figure out who your readers are and find out what they need and want. We can feel like we’re writing the most inspiring and awesome content in the world, but if doesn’t work for your readers, it’s useless.

I’m very curious to see if writing in a more positive light will improve my blog or hurt it. Hopefully, the former…

I’m Still The Grinder

First and foremost, I want to be clear about the fact that I am not going to change what I write about because I am very passionate about it. I am also not going to become Mr. Positivity 🙂 overnight and start spewing rainbows and butterflies.

I am however, going to try to have a more positive outlook on life and hopefully in turn, become a better person. I believe if I become a better person, that I can help you become one as well.

It’s funny, because I’ve read Think and Grow Rich multiple times and yet have failed to implement its cardinal rule in my own life. Thoughts Are Things! We become what we think about all day long, and I have thinking about everything that is wrong with the world. Is it any wonder I’m in the position I’m currently in. I think not.

Life is what we make of it and any given situation can be viewed in a number of different ways. For example, someone who has my life might think it’s perfect.  A stable job, loving wife, beautiful daughters, etc. I have, up until this point, been looking at all the things wrong with my life, not the things I actually have.

I have been choosing to look at all the negatives for so long that I have become a black cloud of misery. It makes for good reading, but it clearly is not working in my life. One of my favorite sayings is “for things to get better, we need to get better”. I need to get better….

Is Change Good?

To be honest, I feel like I’m doing good things with my blog and will continue moving forward in my usual manner. I love what I have built thus far with this blog and my small, but growing community is great.

I just want to make this the best possible resource I can for someone who is trapped in a miserable job and desperately needs a way out. Hopefully I can offer valuable insights that will be useful for you as you work to beat the grind…

Change is not inherently good or bad, but rather is based on the circumstances and reactions it receives.

Thanks for reading and I would love to hear your thoughts about this post. What do you think?

I would greatly appreciate any feedback you may have and look forward to an onslaught of emails telling me I am selling out hearing from you.

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